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how to come out to a friend of the opposite sex that fancys you

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by hernan286, Apr 27, 2014.

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  1. hernan286

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    my friend recently messaged me and told me that she had feelings for me. but i think im gay and i dont want to lose her as a friend. how do i tell her :help:
     
    #1 hernan286, Apr 27, 2014
  2. BelleFromHell

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    One time, I was on vacation with my step-cousin whom I had just meet. I said, "Wow, I'm hungry!"
    He misheard me... and thought I said: "Wow, I'm gay~!" :roflmao:

    A few days later, he started to develop a mini crush on me.
    I said, "Hey, Tony! You know that time you thought I said I was gay? Well, I actually am~!" (!)
     
    #2 BelleFromHell, Apr 27, 2014
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    Just explain to her that you don't have feelings for her not because of who she is, but because of your sexuality. You could add in that you still care about her and the friendship you too have. If she's accepting, she might be bummed out for a little bit, but she'll move on with time.
     
    #3 EleanorHunter, Apr 28, 2014
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    Well you'll have to tell her.
     
    #4 chrisyboy, Apr 28, 2014
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    Urgently! If she is truly your friend, she will remain so...
     
    #5 greatwhale, Apr 28, 2014
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    I tried to do this with a guy friend, but he didn't understand. Eventually he just dumped me.
     
    #6 ChromeNerd, Apr 28, 2014
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    I have had to have this conversation too many times myself. It sucks, but the girls who have crushed on me have understood. They don't really want to be with someone who doesn't ever want to have sex with them, or even kiss them for that matter. Just be you and be honest with them.
     
    #7 Motto, Apr 28, 2014
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