This question is for bi people who like girls and guys equally (or near there). Since your attractions are basically equal, would you say that you have any control over them? Do you feel like it's possible to choose which gender you would be attracted to that day? Or do you feel like some days you lean toward girls, other days toward guys, without any conscious effort on your part, so that it's not a choice?
I'm not actually voting, because for me it doesn't work like that. It's not like my attractions are a single-knob faucet that's either turned toward Hot or Cold. (It's a dual-knob faucet and both Hot and Cold are on trickle or medium-flow at all times.) My day might go like this: I walk into work, and one of the girls who I work around is rather cute, and she seems to catch my eye more often than I realize, and everything about her is a little...intriguing: From the way she walks, to the way she rings someone up at the register, to every little thing she says...'til... it enters my consciousness that "OH! I'm attracted to her!" :icon_bigg lol A little later, a cute male customer comes up to me and I'm immediately appreciative of his attractive smile, his nice haircut, his physique, and his polite manners. Plus, that little twinkle in his eye. Even after we're done interacting I find myself eyeballing him whenever I can get a glimpse of him throughout the store, until he goes out of sight or leaves the store. So, it is literally moment by moment, whomever I am attracted to, I am attracted to. It's not like one hour, or day, or week I'm one way, and the next, the other way. I'm always both.
Most of the time I feel like I can influence myself one way or another, and that most of the time I can be aroused by either gender. Sometimes I'll get hooked on a particular type of turn-on. Sometimes it's strong and I really can't think about much else until it's gone. It may be a fetish, it may depend on one gender, or it may not. This can last a day or two. Occasionally there are weeks or months where I'm really just leaning one way more persistently than the other.
Yeah, I agree with everyone that has responded...It fluctuates a lot. Some weeks I lean more towards girls, others towards guys...so it all depends
I find it hard, married to a lovley woman, but wanting men all the time.. After self examination, think I was pushing wimmin out if my mind, and refusing to let me get turned on, admiering yes, but not sexually. (more like wanting to be as attractive as them, but for men... Eek) Now, I look at both sexes and can have sexual fantasies about both sexes, men make me much more horny though, but are out of reach for me. So I was thinging im totally gay, now not so sure, perhaps bisexual but as was repressing the homo side, that built up to take prominance? Happily can feel aroused by my wife again now, but for quite a while was not, but then we live together, so I know the bad points, and may have been focusing on those, and im easily put off, one stray thought and the moment is lost. So im just not sure. Middle of the road? Hmm, nope, more like im 90% gay attraction, but its out of reach for me. Yes I feel that can control it a bit, or influence myself one way or the other a bit, not sure how long term that is, more like can influence my outlook for the day, and make myself not notice wimmin. Always notice blokes though.. Hmm perhaps im not so middle of the road at all!
That's pretty much how I am!! Only exception is being a bit demisexual with women, but if I get to know an attractive female and a male, I'd most likely be attracted to both and I wouldn't be able to help it!!
^this In my opinion, describing it as a choice is slightly off. Just like you dont choose your orientation, you can't exactly choose who you are attracted to.
Hmmm...based on all of your responses it turns out I didn't give enough/accurate options for the poll. But, it's given me more insight into bisexuality. Thanks everyone!
