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Would you rather be liked or respected?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Radioactive Bi, Apr 30, 2014.

  1. Radioactive Bi

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    Of course we would all like both, but if you had to choose one, which would it be? Which is more important to you?

    For me it is the latter..

    Happy days :slight_smile:
     
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    Respected.
     
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    R-E-S-P-E-C-T

    Respect means that people wont mess with you.
     
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    I think they're both important, obviously, but if I had to choose I'd choose to be liked.
     
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    Respected. I've dealt with plenty of people who like me, but not respect me.
     
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    I've noticed that a lot of the people I work with respect me because they like me. They listen to me and do what I tell them to do because I treat them well.
     
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    I'd rather be liked, since respect is out of the question.
     
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    definately respected
     
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    Would like to be respected, for sure! = )
     
  11. Respected. Hands down. I don't really care if someone doesn't like me. They don't have to.
    I deserve respect regardless of a persons personal feelings about me. The end.
     
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    Respected. As if I cared if people liked me. As long as I like myself, I'm good.
     
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    Respected probably. I'm more respecred than liked irl anyway, so it's kind of unavoidable.
     
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    You're the only one who's chosen liked over respected so far. You don't have to answer if you don't want to, but I'm kind of curious to know what makes you feel that way?


    I would choose to be respected. Although, I'm not sure if the general concept of respect is as important as we make it seem to be. There's little concrete about it, and just because someone respects you, it doesn't ensure anything. I've seen examples of people wronging those who they respect. And seen people who are fairly well respected, but in actuality, don't deserve much respect, their respectability was largely based on facades.

    Also, there seems to me, to be a confusing intersection of respect, and admiration. For me it's difficult to define what benefits there are of people respecting us. It's largely unbeknownst to us, and is more of our own concept than anything else, "yeah, people respect me". Now what? How accurate is that, and is it worth anything beyond our own peace of mind and happiness?
    I think what's even more important, is that we respect ourselves, and the way we live our lives.

    Interesting question...
     
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    Hmmmm... That's a tough one. If you are liked but not respected, people may take advantage of you and walk all over you. If you are respected but not liked, people may keep their distances from you and you end up lonely.

    I'm not sure which one I'd pick, honestly.
     
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    I really don't need either. I'm staying true to myself, and people might not like me or respect me for it, but that doesn't matter.
     
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    Um, no. He's not.
    I chose liked over respected, also.
     
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    I see that now. I was writing out my reply, and hadn't checked for new replies while doing so. Feel free to explain your choice also. And I doubt respect is out of the question for you! I don't think you should think that way about yourself anyways!

    ---------- Post added 30th Apr 2014 at 09:28 PM ----------

    Respect. :slight_smile:
     
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    respected
     
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    Respected.