Do you think this person is stupid?

Ah, stupidity. The grammar alone is enough to make me disagree with that "advice".

 

Yea it's a naive answer but at least they tried to give you advice.

 

*cough*idiot*cough* :lol:

 

I didn't know so many poor arguments could be put into so few sentences.

 

I'm prepared to bet that you haven't shared half as much of your sexuality story with that person as you have with us.

If that's all the information they have then it's not only NOT stupid but it's genuine advice. There are plenty of people who have a bad experience with someone of the opposite sex and decide to try being gay. Some because they have been made to 'hate' people of the opposite sex, others because they have so little confidence with the opposite sex they assume the same sex will be easier.

If you've not shared your feelings with this person how are they supposed to know any different?

 

"I will try that. And it'll be a girl."

 

Wow sometimes I wonder if people actually use their brains clearly this person didn't

 

That would be advice even I would know to ignore! As well as the person

 

Most of the statements there are false, but idk how much information on your situation you shared with them. It doesn't seem to me like the advice is malicious, so if nothing else at least respect the intention. Like ElliaOtaku said, it's pretty common for straight people to have little faith in the opposite sex and/or themselves, so this line of thought isn't entirely unprecedented or categorically stupid, really just ill-considered and ignoring the other possibilities which should be considered. Ignore the advice, tell them gently that it's attraction that builds experience, not the other way round, and that "hate all guys" isn't the extent to which you feel.

The grammar undermines it somewhat though. It's annoying me.

 

I don't think the advice is good at all. Although they may not have had a ton of info when giving you this advice. I really think this is far from the best possible advice you could have been given though.

I don't think it's particularly nice to label this person as 'stupid' though. Stupid is a highly critical word, more than just the meaning of 'uneducated' or whatever. It's an insult. If someone called you stupid you'd feel insulted right?

From that, this person calls you "honey" and reassures you after the slight tangent that "its not the end of the world if you're gay". This person is trying really hard to be supportive and friendly to you. Regardless of advice quality, labelling them as stupid I feel is a little unfair.

 

Stupidity and ignorance are different
Stupidity would be of this person said this knowing every detail of your thoughts, experiences and feelings. The end where they say "it's not the end of the world if you're gay" implies to me this isn't stupid, but mearly ignorant of the facts.

 

I know this guy. Grammar needs work, but he's not stupid.

 

I laughed. It reads like a text message. Quickly composed because the person has to rush to catch a bus. Of course it won't be a masterpiece.

Stupid people can be nice. Intelligent people can be nasty. I think you are already aware of that, since you are asking this question, despite the defendant displaying good intentions.

Based on the evidence provided... the court is adjourned.

If they're straight or gay... I'd tell them to try dating the gender they aren't attracted to!

 

Idk, I always kind of feel bad for people who seem genuinely to want to help with advice, but are totally incompetent at it. It's like their hearts are in the right place, but real empathy and/or communication skills just aren't there.

It would be interesting to hear this person cite some examples of advice they felt had been helpful for them.

 

The problem his response (I guarantee a dude wrote that even though the word "honey" is in there) is that it ignores the fact that all of us have a priori knowledge of our sexuality even before dating.

 

Lol, I just have to laugh at the truthfulness here. Except that along with the skills listed, "higher rational thought" should be in there too. But I have probably given bad advice and likely learned from it, so all I can ask of those people is that they have open minds.

 

To be fair, they did say that it wasn't a big deal if you were gay.

But the grammar... the horror, the horror... *sob*

 

I can't take the person who sent the message seriously strictly on the grounds of their poor grammar.

That aside, I don't think it's right for people to assume that anything "made" you gay.