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Does anyone else have trouble defining sexual attraction?

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  1. ChromeNerd

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    It seems like it's very easy for most people to know what sexual attraction is.
     
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    I don't understand the question friend.. ?
     
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    Absolutely. And I have a terrible habit of the topic occasionally taking far too much time in my mind (like right now).
     
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    Yes!

    I have gay friends that knew they were gay by the age of 12-13 and say 'ew' as soon as they hear the word 'vagina', lol.

    The same does not go for me, but they insist that I'm simply repressed and I should just get over it and accept that I'm gay? I don't think I'm repressing anything but this is all new to me anyway.
    The term 'sexual attraction' itself is confusing; what am I supposed to have sex fantasies whenever I see a cute guy on the bus? Is there a difference with physical attraction? I don't even think of sex when I see someone I find attractive:s
     
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    I don't really think of sex either. I just feel happy.
     
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    I've given up. It's far more peaceful now in my head.
     
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    I do! I'm trans and gay, but I don't feel that I can label myself as gay even though I'm a guy who likes guys because I'm not biologically male. I'm not really into girls, so I can't say I'm bi. It's just a weird situation.
     
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    I don't but I also don't describe it the way people do usually

    I don't instantly want to bang said person per say, but I guess I know weather I'd eventually.
     
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    I don't have trouble defining mine :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I just say that I'm attracted to two genders. And that's that :grin:
     
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    And I would say it is very easy for me. From the moment I turned 12, it was like a switch flipped and I began developing all kinds sexual fantasies.

    I've noticed a percentage of the queer community has a tougher time wrapping their heads around it--a larger percentage than the general population I think. I wonder if there are any studies that look into how strongly people in the general population and in the LGBT community actually experience attraction, and whether there's a sexual component or not.
     
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    Yes! It's really frustrating. I'm honestly still not sure if I'm asexual or gray-a homoromantic, or just homosexual.
     
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    I think that's mostly because of how most people have a hard time accepting themselves at the begining or keep it repressed for years

    like, for me I went my hole life in denial (a shit load of people has asked me if I was a lesbian since I was really young, elementary school young) and some fucked up stuff had to happen for me to start accepting the fact that I'm not staight, and now while I'm not completely sure of my sexuality I laugh at how I used to think I was straight