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How long does the questioning phase last for most people?

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  1. ChromeNerd

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    Couldn't possibly answer that...

    For me 'questioning' was probably the better part of a week, although I had to admit significant attraction to angrogynous people almost immediately, so somewhere between 1 afternoon and a week.

    For others it could be years!
     
  3. DontJudgeMe

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    Depends on the person, I can't really say
     
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    I never really questioned my sexuality so much as try to deny it. Deep down, I knew I was gay from an early age. I've never had issues with my gender identity and have always identified as male.
     
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    I didn't really have a questioning phase--more just a when do I tell people phase.
     
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    I knew I wasn't straight probably some 7 years ago, but I'm still questioning ..
     
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    Years for me, with quite a long denial phase at the same time, only realise it looking back though.
     
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    It could be your entire life.
     
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    For me it's second year now.

    Sexuality is complicted for most people and it's never black and white. I know people want to label themselves and be sure for who they are but, love itself is hard to describe and understand.
     
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    I realised at 11 and accepted at 15 I can't say about others
     
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    It can last for a lifetime, or not at all. Sometimes people accept their sexuality, and know what it is without having to think about it. And sometimes its more difficult. I think a lot of it depends on what concepts a person has about sexuality. In other words, it's all society's fault.

    I think it's also important to realise that their often isn't a perfect answer, and it may never be as obvious to you as you'd like. The words we use to describe sexuality aren't names for categories that we find ourselves in at birth. They're an attempt to fit a confusing and continuous spectrum into discrete categories. Even a guy who is 100% attracted to guys may not feel that the label 'gay' perfectly describes him. It isn't the case with everyone, but I get the feeling often people just realise they've got as many answers as their going to, and pick a label and move on.
     
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    I've been questioning and confused for about three years now, and while I think now that I pretty much know who I am, I'm still not completely sure. This question isn't really something that can be answered, other than the fact that it's different for different people.
     
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    I hope it's not my entire life. I hate questioning my sexuality.
     
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    I'm still questioning. I know two things though...
    First, I have never experienced romantic or sexual desire towards anyone. Just what I call aesthetic appeal. Like art.
    Second, I think I am closer to being a guy than a girl.
    That's it.
     
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    Started questioning at 11, figured it out a little before I turned 14. It's different for everyone, though. The thought of me being gay didn't even occur to me until I was 11.
     
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    Lol, i never had a questioning phase, i knew i was gay from the beginning.
     
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    I never questioned. I knew but tried to deny. That lasted for about 3 years (8 1/2 to 11 1/2).
     
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    It took me 2 years, from 14-16. By age 16 I finally accepted that I was only attracted to girls.
     
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    I think for most people who have what you might call an "alternate but easily-defined sexuality", the questioning phase probably averages somewhere between a month and a year. But as pointed out, I know people who are in their fourth or fifth decade of questioning.

    Lex
     
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    I guess my sexuality isn't easily defined. I've been seriously questioning since I was fourteen. All this questioning just feels like I'm going in circles.