What do you need to be happy?

Ahhhhh I was thinking about this the other day. I've had depression for years now and I keep convincing myself that if I work hard at doing the thing I love and be successful at it, while keeping good ties with my family and friends I'll be a happy person.

But I do all these things now and I'm still unhappy. I'm really worried that no matter what I do in life to make myself happy, I'll still have this massive hole in my chest that can't be filled up. I worry so much about being happy and content with my life that I think I'll be obsessed with it and therefore always be miserable.

If any of that makes sense at all :bang:

Edit: This post was a lot more dramatic than I intended it to be! Lol

 

I want to meet someone who makes me happy, and I want to travel the world with him. I'm naturally quite a positive person and always see the best in situations, but finding "the one" would make me the happiest guy ever.

 

i think for me to be happy i would only need/want an amazing partner, a great amp and my guitars. and an accepting family, that goes without saying.

 

For me to be happy I just need family and friends. I don't need a significant other, although I'm not opposed either. I feel like pushing myself to go further with my art and stories is necessary for my happiness too; I would feel so proud if I finished them before I die.

 

Inner peace.

 

Chocolate! ^.^

 

A good book, music, a rainstorm on an otherwise quiet night.
A companion. Long periods of time to binge watch dr who. Any of thoes things

 

Forgiveness.

 

I need to transition to be happy.

 

Do what you love, let go of the past that makes you depressed, stop waiting for the future it makes you anxious and you never live in the present all you need is to live each day like your last doing what you love for as long as you can its fine to have goals just dont obsesses over them or anything if you can help it that will slowly suck the life out of you being happy with yourself and who you are, not needing anyone else to define you is also a key to happiness

 

In this quote, the main character isn't actually saying that a book, roof, or a coffee will make you happy. It is the gratefulness that she feels for such simple pleasures....it's the perspective that she has. I don't think you need anything or anyone to be happy. I think you can be happy with only yourself by having the right attitude and reflection.

I think that is the core of "coming out" actually. Happiness cannot be achieved through outside means. It can only be acheived inwardly. Yet, how can I be happy within myself if I am denying acceptance of myself? If I can attain that I have a chance.

A future relationship, travel, money, comfort.....none of that is nearly as vital to satisfaction in life. I have met people with far greater suffering and more difficult circumstances than I have ever faced, and as a rule they have also been far more content and happy.

 

This question often crosses my mind, and is a difficult one for me to answer. Life has thrown many challenges at me in my 28years here on this Earth, and a few of those I was lucky to come out of alive. I know what *makes* me happy, and those thing are generally mostly attainable : Listening to music, reading a good book, spending time with my love, walking along the beach under the stars, cuddling my cats. What I *need* to be happy, however are things that for various reasons are not within my control at this point in my life : for my mum to be alive, to have a relationship with my sisters and niece, to not be judged by the scars on my arms, and the biggest one is to finally have the chance to hold a child of my own in my arms. All I've ever wanted is to be a mum, and the day that dream comes true will be one of the happiest of my life. Right up there with the day I can call my girl my wife

 

An orgasm every now and then.

 

Losing my insecurity and anxiousness. I'm anxious all the time and my preferred method of dealing with it is to simply ignore whatever is making me anxious but that just makes it come back to haunt me later... What if my dreams do not come true? What if I remain a virgin forever? What if I never find a job? ...

 

Love. The older I get the more I realize how meaningless life is without love.

 

Some semblance of sanity, for starters.

 

I need lots of love and a bit of chocolate :-D

 

Peace and quiet.

 

An Anxiety free life.