Straight guys and attractions to bisexual girls and lesbians

I think in the case of lesbian porn it's mainly because there's twice the number of naked women instead of one.

In high school, a girl that was accused of being bi got guys attention because in their pea sized brains, bi=slut. When some boys found out that she didn't want to do it with them, one of them became angry, and basically told her that she was going to party with them whether she wanted to or not. Her GF was sent to conversion therapy and one of the male "therapists" there told her that the reason she didn't like guys was that the only guys she met weren't "men" like him, but mere boys. He also said that if she was real nice to him (and didn't tell anyone) that he could help her out in private.

My BF has never been attracted to someone simply because they were bi or a lesbian, in fact it made our friendship easier for him when I was in a relationship with a woman. We were all "just friends" and he treated me more like a sister than someone he was physically attracted to.

 

I actually know this to be true with one of my friends who is straight and told a man she was bi who actually hated her called her names and after he found she was bi ( which she actually was not ) he started doing nice things to her talking to her nice flirting with her and then he tried to sleep with her and they both slept together but she said that she that she felt cheap because he only found interest in her when he thought she was bi she said he expected her to be a slut and thought she would be one since she was bi .

I don't really see it as an attraction but more of a fetish and obsession they have with lesbians and bisexual women when they see us they don't see people they see the sexual images they see in porn . Now online men have found out I'm lesbian and i would always get stupid question like you don't like penises at all , have you slept with a man , are you willing to try a man I heard some lesbians are bi . can I watch you have sex , would you like a man watching you have sex with your girlfriend . Why do you like dildo and not real cocks . Those things aren't like the real cocks .

 

Could be a number of things. More boobies, no males in the scene, exotic appeal, unattainability, the idea of being desirable enough to change a girl's orientation, the stereotype of bisexuals as sluts, the list goes on. I hate it.

 

Yeah, I'm one of these guys; in fact, I'm really mostly attracted to lesbians (not every lesbian).

 

I know the answer but I always have to wonder why are you guys so obsessed with us

Your welcome destiny :icon_bigg

 

I think It's a fetish. Straight people in general (And this even applies to some straight women in regards to gay men) find it extra attractive to see a sexual situation between two people of the gender they are attracted to since there's no "icky" penis (or vagina in case of some straight women) to get in the way of what they like.

If It's just an attraction to it, I think It's OK, but it pisses me off how a lot of straight men ACT in regards to queer women. Lesbians and bi women are treated like their public property.

In the case of lesbians, they think they can turn/covert them (Rape and sexual harassment is sadly very high in regards to lesbians and straight men). Sadly, a lot of men don't think lesbianism is "real", they think it means that a girl will kiss/have sex with girls to turn them on and then go back to men. People do not validate lesbians at all, they think everything we do is fake, and that we will always need a man.

With bi women, It's pretty similar, only they're seen as more 'slutty' or 'kinky' which is BS. Straight men fetishize bisexual women and think their sexualities means "they will date/sleep with me, but they'll find it OK to bring another woman in the bedroom so I can watch them". And not all bi women are like that; attraction to women shouldn't exist for a man's pleasure.

I'm not saying that all straight men are pigs mind you, but I do think It's society's fault for bringing about this mindset since lesbians are not validated or seen as "real" like gay men are.

I've met plenty of straight men who are nice and wouldn't fetishize a lesbian, but in general I do not feel safe 'coming out' to straight men.

 

^This
I don't feel safe coming out to straight men either because some of them think like that , I once got asked by a man if you could watch me have sex with another woman and when i said no he had the nerve to ask me why >.<

 

I merely pity the straight girls who have "cute" douches for boyfriends.

 

huh? sorry but I still don't understand

 

It's in our nature to want what we can't have. Stuff we can't (or don't) have is always more interesting.

 

Basically, all straight men are EVIL.

Obviously.

 

No there are bad apples in the group that make all look bad

 

Of course not 'all' straight men are 'evil', no one said that. We are simply saying that this attitude is prevalent in straight men, and that can't be denied.

 

I wonder sometimes how much porn is to blame for this attitude. Women being treated like property isn't just a bi or lesbian thing. Look at how in so many straight or bi porn videos the woman is called dirty slut or whore.

My first college GF and I broke up because someone found out that she was a lesbian and offered her money (a lot she thought) to be filmed doing lesbian porn. She asked me and I wouldn't do it, and then she asked if I'd mind if she did it with someone else, just for the money. I understand the temptation of money, we were broke college students, but I just couldn't do it. Not condemning someone who does, because that would be hypocritical to criticize someone doing it when I've watched it myself occasionally. If I would've done that, the money would be gone by now, but the video would still be there, and someone might be getting turned on by it even decades from now.

Me either in general, but sometimes I think coming out as bi is worse.

 

That is really horrible...I'm so sorry /: I don't get why people have to treat lesbians and bi girls as kinky pornstars. Most straight couples wouldn't like it if a gay person had a fetish for seeing them 'do it' (And some gay people do like straight porn); they would find it to be an invasion of privacy.

I'm a lesbian and I'm the most sexually conservative person I even know, to the point that even my straight diehard catholic friends would consider me 'sexually boring'. It's bad to stereotype.