Is ironic how not being exposed to porn lead me to not being interested in penis in vagina sex and only being interested (and fantasizing about) anal and oral sex for some years... I never dared to watch porn because: the only PC was my dad PC, i idnt knew it was possible to delete browsing history, my father was overly paranoid with computer viruses and he told me to never go to porn sites and how they are all infested with virus, so i thought that inmediatly going to one would make the computer fester with viruses, so, even at the random appearance of some boobs ad at a website would make me close that site inmediatly. I was really scared of infecting my dad's computer. The problem is didnt knew how vaginas looked, i only knew it was a hole, cause that was i have been told, i dint knew about clitoris or the color of the vagina or anything, i just knew it was a hole, so what i imagined everytime i heard about vaginas was this unappealing, unattractive and boring hole, like if you made a 1.5 inches or 2 inches round hole in a box, literally a hole, the simplest hole in the world . And in my mind what was around at hole? Skin, that is what i visualized. So , as soon as i begun developing sexual attraction at 13 years old, i didnt want to have penis-in vagina sex, i instead i was interested in oral sex and anal sex, interestingly i didnt knew this was actually 'a thing' as i havent watzched porn, and my only close friend never talked about sex, but i just got this urge to do something with women, this started with me wanting to touch boobs, and other women parts, and kissing, and all that, then the urge developed with me wanting to do something with my penis, so my intuition and sexual drive lead me to wanting to have oral and anal sex...why this 2? Because althought i didnt knew how a vagina really looked, i knew how the mouth and girls butts look( a lot more frequent to actually see ass on TV, and mouths are everywhere), and i found them sexually attractive, unlike the boring hole i imagined the vagina was. And so this kept like this until i found out how vaginas really look somewhere at the age of 16. Then i gradually got interested in vaginas( i was so accostumed to thinking abut anal or oral and everything else that the process was gradual not instant), and now i like vaginas just like most straight guy. As i think of this, i wonder, what misconception others people have mantained about sex and what effect did they had? So if any of you reading this have any story of sexual misconceptions then be free to share (remember, dont be too graphical, as its forbidden by this forum rules) Thanks for reading
I'll keep it short. As a kid I thought babies were given birth to between women's boobs...because in some movie a new mother was holding the baby there or I don't even remember. So yeah, that's how f-d up I was back then. Oh and I thought women got pregnant by getting married because I was born around 9 months after my parents got married.
I thought vaginal sex involved the man (or owner of the penis, so to speak) urinating inside the vagina. See, no one ever explained what sperm was until I was a little older. I also thought babies grew in the stomach and were literally shat out. And same thing- not that interested in penis/vagina sex as I am to other kinds and that's even after finally giving straight porn a shot. I'm not finding the actresses attractive for some reason. Even though I'm attracted to certain women in RL.
I didn't see a vagina until I was 16/17 years old, and didn't see one getting penetrated until.. well.. a few months ago. Also before I turned 13 I thought people marry so they can raise children in a stable family, I thought women could give birth to children on will without needing a man... and thus I thought the fuss about Mary giving birth to Jesus was about her deciding to raise him by herself, with no help from a man :/
hmm when I was young a kid told me once gay men are men with no man parts and just a hole and I believed him, I even think his mom told him that, they are middle-eastern. And years and years later I saw a docu about gays in Iran and sadly because trans guy to girl is more accepted there guys that are not trans at all talked about how they went for the operation just because then only they'd get BFs and allowed to be gay (more like a str8 couple, I mean a trans girl with a guy is kind off like a girl with a guy right?) without being sent to jail & getting more severe punishment.
When I identified as straight- I hated penis-vagina sex with a passion. I had many negative feelings surrounding it and could rant all day about why I hated it. I think this was based on many misconceptions I had; It's degrading and torturous to the woman because the man has to rip through her and draw blood (Obviously isn't true, but I truly felt like it was at the time), it can't possibly be all that pleasurable or orgamistic to the woman (Actually, this is somewhat based on fact anyway), and that It's a power thing where the man always wins and the woman loses. I was scared shitless of penetrative sex because I thought of it being this violent, cruel ritual for the longest time. Even when I identified as a straight girl, I only watched lesbian porn because I thought it was softer and nicer for women since it didn't involve that painful "stabby stab" sensation by a penis. When I saw a straight sex scene, I was SHOCKED that it wasn't at violent as I imagined it to be. So what did I fantasize about as a straight girl? Handjobs mainly (I even thought blowjobs were too degrading). Before I realized I was a lesbian, the one sexual act with men that turned me on all the time was pegging, and I always wanted every fantasy boyfriend I had (I never had a real one) to bend over and give his rear end up for me to take. Then I realized I was a lesbian, and had no more male fantasies; part of me wonders if my dislike for PIV caused my sexuality, but I doubt it since I can't even look at men the same way anymore regardless. I guess the only difference is although I still would NEVER ever want to 'bottom' (not even for a woman), I have a less extreme view compared to how I used to when I gained more experience and knowledge.
Vaginas were just unappealing to me because I'm gay. I'm pretty sure that's just the way it is for everyone who likes a certain sex over the other, the gender you're not into just doesn't appeal to you in most senses I would presume. For example for me it's not just anal or oral sex that attracts me to a guy, it's just the appearance of one that does it for me. Idk I don't think the gender you find attractive is just based off the type of sex or genitilia you prefer (that is part of it but not all).
When I was as young as five I had already been taught the very basics of the birds of the bees. But only the most basic, as I didn't know what sex was. Because people used the term "Sleep together" I assumed that if a man and a woman sleep in the same bed, the sperm comes out in your sleep and goes into the woman. I think most people had some unusual beliefs as kids until it was corrected, but to me it seems to me that a simple solution for that is for all sex ed classes to use anatomical drawings, mine did, but I wasn't in public school at the time. I knew about the difference between male and female parts since preschool, I've been told that one day I announced to everyone loudly that "Boys have a penis and girls have a virginia". As a toddler I bathed with my best friend frequently, and because she was female I was never very surprised later seeing close up pictures of a vagina. I had also been raised to appreciate art, including nude sculptures and paintings that I had seen in museums. I know that there are a lot of people who would disagree with allowing a kid to know about these things as early as I did, but I didn't come out any worse for it, and have no sexual hang ups.
