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Is it true you can forget the first person you slept with

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  1. stocking

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    I slept with this guy in the past and cannot forget him , I feel so ashamed of what I did in the past and regret it you know do you think i will ever forget this person . :confused:
    Or will i always remember this person ? Do you guys remember the first person you slept with a forgot about them ?
     
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    Well, you can in as much as you can forget anything...

    It's not something you can MAKE yourself do though...
     
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    Being I had a friend with benefits all throughout my teens, no I will not forget him. You never forget your first.
     
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    At least y'all have had a first :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I've never been with anyone! #ForeverAlone :frowning2:
     
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    Hard to say. I suppose it might be technically possible via electric shock treatment, or a lobotomy or some kind of blow to the head, causing amnesia, but that would rather extreme.

    I think what will happen though, is that over time, you'll come to understand what happened differently, and not feel bad about it, as you grow and change. You may have to work on it, but I think you can overcome the guilt and negative feelings. Have you thought of talking this over with a therapist? I think that might be helpful, if you're able to.
     
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    Sorry buddy, you seem like a nice guy. (*hug*)
     
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    Thanks! (*hug*) I'm just picky, and not the "partying" type. I tend to like small groups of people. *Sigh*. Maybe my senior year will be my lucky year!
     
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    No not yet

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    Wish I could honestly :icon_sad:

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    If only i had a time machine :confused:
     
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    Yeah, you remind me of myself. I was the same way, but my small circle of college friends is intact. I know I can count on them even though I am not out with them yet.

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    The thing is that I became attached to him, and we both used each other for our bodies. Part of me enjoyed but also felt guilty about it.
     
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    i wasn't attracted at all but I regret doing something so foolish the internalized hophobia I felt to go that far to want to be changed wish I didn't feel that way back then >.< I didn't even wanna have sex , but I forced myself to do it in hopes that I could be at least bi .
     
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    The rub about it(pun intended) was that he cut me off right after high school. I started touching him when I came over one day, and he said "no". Then I knew the party was over. :icon_redf

    I had homophobia that ultimately stopped me from trying to get any chances with anyone else. I beat myself up over it because I was raised very conservatively. I still do; there is still self-loathing.
     
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    That's what I am going through
     
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    No. I don't think it's true. You will never forget the "first time," regardless of who it was with and whether it was good, bad, or you are or were ambivalent about it. If nothing much was attached to it emotionally, either then or now, it's just a milestone event on a timeline, and one people generally don't forget.

    I can't be ashamed of what I did a long time ago. I look for the humorous side of the situation and there definitely was one, though another part of it was scary. I am more ashamed of mistakes I've made within the last decade or so more than my "first time."

    A psychologist once told me is that everything that happens to us, on a cumulative basis, becomes part of our psyche. Damn, I've got a lot of baggage. LOL.
     
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    Alzheimer's. Just sayin'.



    Even without that, though, yes you absolutely can. Just, as Ellia said, it's not something will you'll be able to force yourself to forget.
     
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    I hope I forget will not force it
     
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    I think it's possible to forget anything, some people can forget almost their entire lives or become incapable of forming new memories. But I don't think much short of a home lobotomy kit would make you forget. I just looked it up, and google has over 78,000 results for home lobotomy kit. You really can find anything on the internet.
     
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    Hey, don't feel bad; you're not alone. :smilewave
     
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    This is why I sometimes feel like I don't want sex ever, because of these kind of emotional complications.
     
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    Well, i cant forget mine. But he left me for alcohol :') i still think of him sometimes but yeah.. I was underage and he was 3 year older. Its fine to have attraction and good memories. I don't feel anything for him anymore those.
     
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    It wasn't a attraction or a good memory for me :icon_sad: