How do I know??

Dude, you're pretty much where I am, heh. Right now, I know that I'm attracted to men, and as time passes, I'm learning more and more exactly how attracted to them I am, but having never been close to a man before, it's really not possible to say anything for certain. It's still not easy to imagine myself physically loving a man, but at some point, I know I'd like to ^^

 

I don't know...
I got an idea!! How about you think about your future?
I mean think what you wanna be, what you wanna done, and who is standing next to you? A guy? or a girl?
This might give you an idea...
But I know a guy who has sex with only men, but he never fall in love with a man, does that make sense?
It's not accurate at all but this is something you can do it right now by just yourself right? I mean if you can have sex with a guy and then with a girl, then I suggest you to do that though...for obvious reasons.

But fastest and more accurate way to get an answer to your question is already you said but experiences....I guess...

Does anyone know how? I kinda confused myself:icon_ques

 

Whether you're "unsure", "Bi" or "Gay" - well - at least you know you aren't totally straight, LOL.

FWIW, it took me years to fathom it out...and even tho' I (think) I have - it really isn't that much less confusing than it was decades ago.

The big difference now is that I know that sexuality comes in all shapes and sizes. For some it is at one end of the scale - for some it is at the other (by that I mean people who KNOW they are gay or straight).

For others (myself included) it has "moved" up and down the "gay to straight" scale over the years. I remember being "attracted" to a couple of guys at school when I was a kid in my early/mid teens (even "fooled around" a little with one of them).

Then I went through a long period of going out with girls - and enjoyed it. Even fell madly in love with one (but lost out to someone else in the end). Strange thing is that she and I are still very good friends (and have been more than that over the years - but that's another story) and I have a sneaking suspicion that we will wind up together (somewhere in our dotage?!).

Nevertheless - in recent years I have found myself having far more sexual experiences (and maybe friendships, tho' not relationships) with guys than with girls. I have never met a guy that I think I would be happy to "settle into a relationship" with - but who knows? I think part of the reason for this is that I still hold out hopes for an eventual "happy ending" with the one person i lost my heart to years ago. hey - maybe I'm dreaming - but in a lot of ways...it's a nice dream.

Oh well - all I can say is "check back with me in another 10 years or so"...

 

Something I kind of realized as I was trying to answer the same questions about myself is that, to be blunt, the truth is in the porn. So, putting in a standard disclaimer regarding legal age to view adult materials, et cetera, blah blah bla, if you view straight porn and if you view gay porn, and only one of them does something for you, then you most likely have your answer. I've never been on a date with a guy yet, either, yet here I am.

Of course, there's more to consider than just that, but it's worth thinking about.

 

I've actually tried porn...gay porn really doesn't do anything for me, but I've definately been aroused by men who don't live in my computer/magazines.

 

One thing I know that dont try to use the online gay quizzes to figure out if you are gay or how gay you are. It's you who can figure it out.

When you are attractive to other guys, that dosen't mean that you are gay because you think they are hot, cute, sexy, etc.Maybe because the guys you like are cool people, that their styles have big impacts on you.

I used to think some of the guys in my school like me and always check me out because they awere gay. But then I found out they were not, it just that they liked the things I did when hanging around with them.

But you'll soon find out your oreintation, the key is dont be too worried about it. The time and enviroment will guide you through.

Good luck(*hug*)

 

Porn is not working for people who dont like porn :icon_roll

 

Well if you know you're attracted to guys then what is there to be unsure about? You're attracted to guys. That's it, end of story. Do you trust your feelings in general? If yes, then why wouldn't you trust these ones?

I mean unless you are constantly misleading yourself, it seems pretty simple to me.

But if you want some sort of "confirmation," well short of experience, I've always believed that what people fantasise about is a pretty good indication. Of course, it's not 100% because I've met a lot of guys who are gay but who fantasise about marrying a woman and having children and the white picket fence stupidity. But I don't think that's particularly THEIR authentic fantasy/desire--I think that's just one they've internalised after being force-fed it all their lives.

 

I was in the same situation as you are for a long time. For me, it ended when I had sex with a guy for the first time. I loved it, so now I know I like guys. I have never been with a girl so I don't know for sure if I like them... Straight porn turns me on, but the "live" thing doesn't turn me on as much. I don't know.

If you feel you're attracted to guys, then that's it. You like guys... but I still think you have to try it. Maybe you don't like the sex at all, and you only like watching or something like that.