Gay racism

Wait so people have a problem with gay men liking other gay men of a certain race . people need to lighten up and let people enjoy who they enjoy

 

AMEN!!!!! :eusa_clap

 

I don't think that's more common in gay couples than straight to be honest...

 

Where I live, I've gone on apps (never with my profile pic , but just for fun :lol and I've seen some folks write "WHITE ONLY" or ""White/Hispanic Only" or "NO BLACKS." Pretty sad to see that.

That said, I feel bad when anyone likes someone as a fetish (e.g., only dates black people assuming they have larger endowments, liked Asians because they assume they will bottom and be submissive, etc.). I don't want to date someone who liked me for a certain stereotype.

If you don't demean someone and like them for who they are, you should be able to date who you want without having anyone make any assumptions.

 

I understand that a lot of people have a list of aesthetics that must be met by sexual partners, but I've always thought it's ridiculous to preclude someone because you aren't the same race as them. So what? Based on the smallish number of interracial couples you encounter in day to day life where I live, I suppose not too many people think the same way I do.

 

If straight people can have mixed race relationships, so can gay people...

 

I've noticed a lot of racism from white gays, quite a lot on EC, actually. It's important to remember that oppression in one way doesn't stop people from harming others in other ways. White gays are just as prone to racism as white straights.

LGBT+ isn't just white queers, which I've seen being forgotten/ignored on EC and elsewhere. Creepy racial fetishisation and racial "preferences" are rampant among queer communities and it needs to stop. The speed in which a conversation about race, even on EC, can turn into a thinly veiled circle-jerk of gentle white supremacy is both scary and disappointing.

That's not to say that racism is any more prevalent among us than among straight people, but we're definitely not free of it any more than they.

 

I'm not really exposed to dating sites for straight people so I'm not sure but i have seen the NO BLACKS or WHITES only on gay dating sites even for lesbians. I don't think it's exclusively a gay thing though. I knew quite a few white guys that had dated asian girls and they were called quite a few times "rice chaser" but their friends. They were doing it as a joke but it definitely happens among straight people.

It really is crazy how people can be so discriminatory towards people of other races. Ok, if you don't wanna date someone of another race that's fine and no one can force you to, but there's no need to be such a dick about it. People should just not reply to that person if they're not their "type". It's really not that hard. To add things like NO FATTIES, NO FEMMES, NO BLACKS... is just plain douchebaggery.

 

I've considered making a troll profile on one of those apps, with "no whites, masculine, fit, etc." just to see what type of reactions I'd get. Maybe have one with a picture of someone who fits that description, and another with someone the opposite in every other way, just to compare results? :lol:

Anyway, it's bad enough that some people would rule out an entire race, but to police someone else's choices? It reminds me too much of those old segregation laws. What business is it of yours to tell someone who they can and cannot date simply because you share a similar ethnic/racial background? And you can't use the whole "they'll produce offspring unlike us!" argument, since obviously... two gay people can't procreate together naturally.

It exists in the straight world, definitely. Just think of terms like "n*gger lover" and "mudshark". I'm not sure how common this is in lesbian communities, since it seems mostly guys who create and use these terms, mostly. I think gay men might be more likely to openly express these views, but I'm sure with time they'll become as disapproved as within the larger society.

 

See it shouldn't be relevant at all in our community though...

I will never and have never understood how someone who is gay can be racist, like it is completely dumb to me. We as gay, bisexual, transsexual and pansexual people are sort of discriminated against and know how it feels like, so I don't get why we would ostracize other people for something that they cannot help. Racism is so pathetic >_>...

This is why I don't think I will ever use any of those dating apps, they just seem full of jerks... Although I guess those apps are mainly for hookups and I guess people can have their preferences but there are ways of doing it without being so rude to say "ONLY WHITES", that is completely offensive. Rant over lol.

 

I was a little surprised by this myself. Where I live you wouldn't hear it directly. Don't get me wrong, plenty of gay guys where I live have definite racist tendencies but it's not socially acceptable so you really don't hear it expressly avowed the way I have here.

 

Because I like Asian guys doesn't mean I wouldn't go out with a white or black guy either.
A nice smile (and shaven face) matters to me.

 

It's really unfair, you know. Especially for us, Asians. I don't know if I should only date Asian guys so as not to be judged, but then some people will call us "sticky rice". But if we date Caucasian guys, some will call us "potato queens". For real?? What should we do, then?? I'm confused.

Not to mention that most of the gay men in Western countries prefer not to date Asian guys because of "that" stereotype. Uggh.

 

I don't get it either. It's really odd, but some people will never be able to look past their own prejudice. I have preference, like many other guys. I like blacks and Hispanics more, aesthetically, but does that mean that I won't fall in love with a white guy? Of course not. To me it really doesn't matter so long as I'm attracted to that person. Hell the only guys I've kissed on gay clubs are white guys, and I live in a Caribbean island.

 

If some folks want to get chocolate ice cream, fine. If some folks want to stick with vanilla ice cream, fine. If some folks want to shake it up and get Rocky Road, fine. But, for me, I'm always going to buy Neapolitan -- because I love diversity.

Oh, wait... this isn't about ice cream flavors. Fuck... uh, I love everybody. Race, to me, is about like hair or eye color. Yeah, it's there, and yeah, I'll notice it for a bit. But that quickly vanishes. It isn't very important to me.

 

I'm white; my boyfriend just happens to be black. I certainly didn't start dating him because he is black. I had never really considered dating another race, but we met, clicked, and hit it off. I don't see it as any big deal, but for some reason the first response from several friends was, "wow, you are dating a black man!" What is that supposed to mean?

 

So, wait... since I my maternal grandmother is native American, does that mean a women who wanted to date me would be an "apple muncher"?... *snort*

How stupid are people? Race shouldn't matter, just like who you like! I think there are extremely attractive women of all races, but that's just me,

PREACH IT, sister! :lol:

 

I guess you could call this... gaycism.
People can have preferences. That does not make them racist; you can't control what you are attracted to. Gay people should know that better than anyone.

It's when you start being rude to others about their preferences that it becomes an issue. It's one thing to have pride about your culture/race, but it's another to be a supremacist. Don't bitch about "race mixing" and don't whine about how you have to "preserve your culture." It's a particularly dogmatic form of cultural isolationism. Besides, it's associated with National Socialists/Neo-Nazis, and frankly, they're a bunch of racist, anti-freedom assholes.

 

You totally can't help who you are attracted to. I'm attracted to men, that doesn't mean I hate women. But the guys on apps can be very douchey with their profiles.
I am mixed, I couldn't exist if people doesn't think outside the race box. I happen to be mostly attracted to Caucasian guys but it's not a solid role for engagement.