Too Fem....

I'm sorry you are having a difficult time finding someone. But you have to realize that there is someone special out there who will like you for you You just have to keep looking. Don't change yourself! Word of advice: stay away from already taken men. It's not a good idea. Btw, Joan Jett rules!

 

I have the same (but opposite) experience.
I'm as butch/blokey as they come but I tend to find a lot of fem guys attractive. Opposites attract. Obviously it depends on personality and interests etc.. as well of course.

So we're out there, and we're single, all hope is not lost

Also, I know it's difficult, but try to stop looking at yourself as if you need to be fixed.

Peace be with you and good luck!

 

I'm positive that the perfect person is around the corner:-D
Until then if you want to talk I'm here

 

if you see yourself as a guy and were to transition to female you would be living a lie and probably feel horrible so please think about how to be happy without changing who you are for others

 

BloodFlame: You'd regret it. Really, the only reason to get a sex change is to handle dysphoria. If you're not trans, it's not a good idea. Many people have done it and regretted it.

Now, on a side note, I'm certain there are many people out there that would be attracted to someone like you and also be compatible with you. Just gotta find them. I know I tend to be more attracted to androgynous people. (Somewhat androgynous myself)..

 

Never ever change yourself for someone... people come and go. You end up with all by yourself at the end. Too late for regrets, too weak to face them alone.

Staying as you are and finding the one has one big advantage... you don't have to act, be someone else around them. Just be paitent. Good things come to those who wait.(*hug*)

 

*shrugs* I happen to like fems, and looking through your profile pictures, you seem to fit the bill. The only issue is that I'm note quite opposite, so that could throw a wrench in the equation. Otherwise, there are those who value your kind out there, you just need to know where to look. And it's never worth changing yourself just to feel accepted - self-acceptance should always come first. Likewise, another person can't make you suddenly comfortable with yourself, so work on that first.

 

Gah, i'm so pissed that I have to write this twice (I've been getting a glitch and the paragraph I wrote was completely erased).

Anyway, I seem to be having (or have)the same situation like you. It's either that guys who are interested in me are usually the ones I'm not interested to or they're either married and with kids! but when I met my ex-boyfriend, that completely changed. Sure, he's not the type of person I'm looking for in terms of the physical attributes but my god it completely changes once you really fall for someone who you are truly in love with.

I think what you need is to be patient and don't ever consider hooking up with someone who are married and most of all, do not ever change yourself for other people, you do it for YOU.

 

Only if you really want it.

 

I think people who don't conform to gender norms are extra sexy. Trust me, people like me are out there, and we like guys like you. Don't get a sex change just to fit in.

 

Interesting. I'm masc who prefers masc, but don't mind fem. I'm having a hard time finding gays in general, especially while not being fully out.

 

I know the feeling that there doesn’t seem to be anyone alive who will love me and accept me for who I am. I’m very fem, but like you the only guys I seem to attract are married men Unlike you, I’m much older and was married for over ten years, so I a least have had the experience of being in a relationship. With that said, my relationship with my ex-wife ended because I was way too fem for her. She was more of the guy in terms of initiating sex and other things. Kinda of like having two girls in the same house. Not a good combination. Like you, I also like gay guys who are masculine and for me muscular. Unfortunately they are not interested in me. So what keeps me going forward? Two things really: first, I have widened my field of choices to men who may be much older than I would find optimal. I do however, require that they look younger than their age. The other is I’ve found that I have so much more in common with other fem guys that I should be open to dating them as well. Hopefully, some thing with work out. Based on your profile picture, I’m confident someone will fall in love with you as you are beautiful.

 

You seem like you're not sure of yourself, maybe it's because you feel that you're lacking or that there is something in you that needs to be fixed that's holding you back from finding Mr. Right. The more that you are confident of yourself the more that someone's likely going to notice and admire you. A sad person only has sadness to contribute to a relationship, find your true self; settle with it and be happy. :icon_bigg

Always keep your head up, never settle for someone less, everybody deserves better ^ _ ^/

 

You know, I've been in your shoes before. I questioned myself the same thing and it's a vicious cycle and I decided to stop thinking about it and focus on something else. Being patient doesn't mean that you rely on waiting for the right person but you can also do this by giving attention to say, your hobbies, meeting with friends, improving your self, helping other people, meditating etc.

 

We live in a world that has an absolute truth.. Most of what people do, they do to make it work. Like a holywood movie.

Maybe you came from a less adjusted environment. I know i did. My parents where alcoholics in a community that seemed really snooty to me. There is a spot between carrying on adjusting/maintaining it and frusteration. I went through this alot.

You just have to stick to one or the other.. So they dont contradict. Blood, sweat and tear, you know, perserverance.. If you can stick to something which doesnt have many contradictions and perservere, youll usually do alright, although not easy. It can be really difficult. Dont let it be, thats what repels others, unfortunately.

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Woops, i was editing my message but 15 minutes expired.

For the past 15 years, my life has been a continual adjustment to the world in a manner very similar to a TS.. Im very femme.. Ive gone through this roller coaster alot.. Usually when im frusteratede, its not NEARLY as bad as it seems and fear too. Much turbulance is normal in this..

I was in a spot where i was unsure alot.. this is basically the cause of what repeled others and annoyed them. It made me look like a plebian.

If you stick to your dreams, youll do alright. Dont let them collide with reality though.. Take things with a grain of salt.. Or else youll go psycho.

But make sure your intent is clear.