Kind of confused, aren't most people demisexual?

I've been confused for a long time about demisexuality, I know what it is, it's only being sexually attracted to people you have an emotional connection to. I always just thought this was normal and how most people felt. I can think someones cute, but I wouldn't actually have sexual feelings for them until I was in a strong relationship. Aren't most people like that, I mean many years back most people weren't having sex until they were married. I'll include a poll to see how many people are demisexual, because I'm a bit curious.

 

I've been confused about it too. I think it's more of a level of attraction. I don't think that needs a label, but if people want to label themselves as such, it's not my place to tell them.

 

I chose no because I have no sexual feelings toward people :lol: although I can be with someone romantically

 

I'd classify as demisexual too, but I don't identify as it because I think it overcomplicates my identity.

 

Call me a horndog or whatever, but that is not me.

 

+1

 

I know how you feel, if I listed everything I was it would be this: Demisexual Pansexual Panromantic queer demiguy. I would feel stupid saying all of that, especially considering most of those things are uncommon to the point where nobody would have any clue what they where. So I just say I like people of any gender, and I don't conform to gender norms.

 

Dunno, but I can have sex with anyone as long as I am attracted to them.

 

No they're not

 

I think what some have been missing (from earlier threads, too) is that it is deeper than the 'gonna wait for sex' mentality. Just because someone holds off/waits doesn't necessarily mean that they don't think sexually.

Think about it; As a big example, most people can right off the bat point out how they think someone they see is 'sexy'(as in sexually attractive), like how you normally see men/women always talking about what they'd do to or with so and so. Does that mean they will just jump on said person/people? No, but they are showing that the person is of 'sexual value' to them(even if just thoughts).

A person who's demi wouldn't personally have any input there; not from 'holding anything back' but because there really is a lack of sexual interest in general. You can kind of say it's right near the gate of asexuality. Someone being 'sexy' doesn't click with me and I find the word awkward as heck.

As Beetle said, it's really more a level of attraction, but I feel there's a misunderstanding nonetheless.


Suppose I'll wait now for the arrival of the SSP...>_>

 

I always thought you were falling , I always wondered and thought i might be but I have met some women where I wanted to jump their bones right away . So I'm not demi after all :icon_sad:

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But you can educate people on it and the more people that do the more it catches on

 

Yeah, I suppose that's true.

 

I think demisexual only works as an auxiliary term.
It doesn't describe what genders (if any) you are attracted to.

 

I used to consider myself demisexual, but I realized that I just wasn't comfortable having sex with someone I don't love. I still experienced sexual attraction towards them.

I would say most people are demiromantic.

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* I consider myself to be a "demi-homoromantic homosexual," meaning I can't fall in love with someone until I get to know them, it's always with other women, and I'm only sexually attracted to other women.

I usually just say "lesbian" or "gay" for simplicity.

 

Yeah of course, that's not the point of it as far as I know.

To respond to the OP, I think a lot of (or most) people can be "turned on" by anyone they are sexually attracted to.

For me I'm not sure, I could live without sex, but I also love things like romance, making out, and porn.
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I can look at someone and be sexually attracted to them, but in order for me to do anything, I'd have to get to know them first. I don't mind making out, just not sex.

Is that demisexual? I didn't think it was...

 

I don't really understand the point of the label because it seems so common, it applies to a LOT of people. Also from my understanding sexual orientation is determined by who you're attracted to, and demisexuality is more about when

 

I would agree with this. I don't know that I'm demi exactly, but I think I would technically be more like Panromantic with very strong preference to males gray-asexual, but that takes a bit too long to explain.

 

Maybe I really am a "real" demisexual then, judging by these comments.

I know that morally, I wouldn't sleep with someone I haven't been with in a long time, but yet mentally and physically I have no physical/sexual attraction to people I don't know either.

I never notice "hot" girls in public. I've NEVER had a celebrity crush in my life. Yet I sometimes crush on video game characters because I played through their whole life stories. I can get sexually attracted to real life girlfriends I've known for a year or two (even if I choose to hold off), but otherwise nothing. I have no physical attraction toward women I don't know.

However, even with this in mind I don't like identifying as demisexual either because It's so complicated....I usually say I'm attracted to people based on how close we are while continuing the homosexual label.