GAY GUYS: Would your parents rather you be bi?

Fortunately I didn't. But I believe that my mom will be very opposed to the idea of me being bi. I mean, she already says being gay is not okay(even though she respects me) so I'm pretty sure that being Bi will get a very wrong reaction from her.

 

I don't think there are any other family members who know me that could possibly care less whether I'm bi or gay, than my parents.

 

I don't know if my parents would have preferred it, but I think it's ridiculous for any parent to take such a position.

What :***: difference does it make? If you are bi, you will still have feelings of attraction towards the same sex. Being bi isn't a compromise option until you come round to the idea of being straight.

 

You need to understand where your mother's preference is coming from: the vain hope that you will settle for a girl rather than a boy. If you give in to that wishful thinking, you will have to come out again, this time as definitely gay...eventually.

Do you want to go through that again?

 

More than likely, because that would give them hope that I'd marry a girl and have an accident so they could be grandparents. Shows you how self-centered they really are.

 

Yeah that's not wanting you to be bi, that's wanting you to be straight...

 

My parents want me to be straight :dry: I explained to them how that is impossible; now they want me to be bisexual :lol:.

 

You can be bi and still end up having a long-term relationship with a guy(if you are a guy I mean). You wouldn't have to come out again. It's my sexuality, so it is up to me with whom I tie the knot with if it gets that far. But I know I am still physically attracted to girls and also emotionally. Why do so many think it is impossible for a guy to be bi?

 

My parents always assumed I was straight, as did everyone else, so no, they wouldn't want me to have been bi. They died long before I identified that I was gay.

 

It's denial, of a kind. If you're bi, not gay, everything can still be normal. You can marry a girl, have kids and so forth, and never touch another guy's cock.

 

I've only told my mom that I'm gay and she never once asked if I was bisexual. Perhaps she sees the world as black and white and you can only be gay or straight. With my dad, it would probably be a little easier if I were bi, but I haven't crossed that bridge yet.

I agree that for some parents, having a bi son makes it easier to hold on to the notion that their son might end up with a girl.

 

Yep.... but if I ever told them I was gay they'd rather I be straight, that is the only right way in their minds, sadly. When I do tell them they'll just have to deal with it like everyone else will.

 

I don't know, I think they're all right but I honestly couldn't care less

 

My mum prefers to think I'm gay.
If she thought I was bi, she would be hoping and wanting me to "pick a girl" to fall in love with.
I think she prefers to know for certain who I'm going to bring home to meet them.

Peace be with you.

 

I don't think it would make any difference to my parents if I was bi or gay - they would hate it no matter what. I guess being bi would give them a glimmer of hope I would fall for a girl, get married, have kids, and all that stuff, but... I dunno.

 

My sexuality is not up for a bargain. It is what it is. I have an emotional and physical attraction to girls and guys. I am just going to leave it at that.

 

I think my parents have always thought that, actually. And sexuality was never talked about. However, that's what I think they thought and have good reason to believe those were their perceptions. Again, my parents didn't care about this stuff. But, boy, were they strict and did they ever harp on other issues.