How To Not Get Embarrassed In Convos About Sexuality

Thats my biggest concern, and the reason why I haven't told any of my coworkers. I could care less what my coworkers think but if by some slim chance someone said something that got back to my parents, things could get really bad.

 

I think it just takes time to be able to talk completely openly about being gay with non-gay people.
Sometimes it feels like they're asking for malicious reasons (99% of the time they're not).
Sometimes it feels like they see you as kind of a fun "gimmick", something new to talk about.
Sometimes it feels like they're trying to invade your privacy.

Also, gay people often cop a bit of flack in the media and online about "rubbing our sexuality in people's faces", so it's easy to get into the habit of not wanting to talk about it a lot.

I guess try to look deep inside and find the cause for your embarrassment. Once you address that, the symptom should slowly dissipate. The cause might not even be related to sexuality.

Peace be with you.

 

I would get nervous too. It's really not any of their business one way or another.

 

I get nervous too... some kid calls me gay. I'm not sure if it's because he legit knows I'm gay, or if it's because he's just making friendly jokes with him. He seems to bring it up a lot... so I wouldn't be surprised if he knew. I guess he's not the type to hate, just the type to say things without thinking. To be quite honest, I don't care if people suspect I'm gay. I just don't like it when they confront me about it...

 

I feel the same way. I'm not comfortable saying the words "gay" or "lesbian" out loud, even when I'm around LGBT people and allies, which has made coming out darn near impossible.

Take yesterday, for example. I was at a Spencer's getting some rainbow stuff for pride month, and when I got up to the register to pay, I felt like I was going to have a heart attack. Luckily for me, the cashier was super nice and didn't even ask me about anything. He looked like Bob Marley, only with shorter dreads. :lol:

I felt better after that. Hopefully if I start wearing my pride stuff in public, I won't have to die in the closet.

 

Btw, when I come out to someone, I like to let one of my favorite songs play in my head, then let the "I'm gay" just slip out. It doesn't get rid of your anxiety 100%, but it still helps.

 

Yeah, it's a catch 22. I was walking around a local city famous for having a larger homosexual population here locally, and I enjoyed the people watching now that I'm out of denial. But it would be weird for someone to just walk up to me and be "you bi or gay?". Now, if we are in the conversation, and it's been going for 5 minutes, then I wouldn't care even though I am not out to everyone.

When I do get a job in the future, I will choose to stay in the closet unless the environment is LGBT friendly. I am really not into talking about social lives at work; it only causes trouble anyways even when I was "straight". Keep business and pleasure separate.

 

I feel exactly the same way. I get very uncomfortable when someone brings up my orientation, because I feel like we can talk about so many other things, why that? As far as "not being nervous" goes, remember that the only person that can ever truly bring you happiness is yourself. I know it's stressful, but even coming out to a few people is a big step. Don't sweat it too much, come out to everyone when you're ready

 

Oi! I love how there's a common misconception of the definition of sexual orientation and sexuality being the same thing:lol:

In conversations about sexuality: I was nervous as first but then I realized that sex is an ordinary aspect of life and that there's nothing to be embarrassed about.
In conversations about sexual orientation: I kind of get embarassed but I think that's because we see "gay", "straight" as labels; we grew up with seeing people as people. I think its ordinary to get rather embarassed when sexual orientation crops up in a conversation. We don't want to label ourselves at "gay" or straight, we just want to say: "I am me and I like boys/girls."

 

I envy your way of thinking. If I thought the same way as you, my internalized homophobia would burn to the ground...

 

It'd have been nice to have this mentality years ago. I just adopted this way of thinking and it feels liberating, don't know why I didn't have this mindset earlier!