When you think of a famous role model of either sex, do you think that you want to be with them, or to be/be like them? Are your role models only of the same gender or does it not matter? I'm wondering if choosing a role model depends on your sexual orientation or gender. For me, if I think of someone like Bear Grylls, I think he's an awesome guy and I'd love to be more like him. When I think of Shakira I want to bang her.
When it comes to guys that spark my interest, I put them into two categories: - Guys I wanna bang/date - Guys I wanna aspire to be like And a lot of the time, those two categories have completely different types in them.
Neither. I have no desire to be with these people I don't know or likely to have any contact with and I aspire to be no one but myself. Happy days
I don't obsess over celebrities. That said, I do sometimes find myself staring at a beauty like Shakira and sighingly wishing I could look like her.
Marshmallow is right, it depends who it is, and also how they're marketed. Using your example, Bear Grylls is a tough survivor guy whereas Shakira is a popular singer whose sex appeal is obviously marketed a lot more than Bear's. I often imagine what it'd be like to be a celebrity's best friend actually. The only people I have ever imagined actually being/being like are Brian May (because he's BRIAN FREAKIN MAY) and Skye Sweetnam. More often I imagine what it'd be like to hang out with them and what kind of things they could tell me and teach me.
Me neither, my most significant role models are people I know. But the only people we (members of this forum) will all know are those who are famous. Again, I don't really mean to talk about celebrities in this. The idea I wanted to address was how sexuality and gender affects who someone's role models are. As I said before, I just suggested famous people as you won't all know my uncle, or anyone like that. Im wondering if the way I am is common, in that none of my significant role models are female, and if there's a reason for it. ---------- Post added 7th Jun 2014 at 05:49 PM ---------- Very interesting
The more comfortable I become with who I am, the less I want to swap places with others. Anybody I lust after/admire I really just want to be with, not become them.
Fair enough, but I'm not talking about hopelessly wishing we could become someone else. I mean a role model when you recognize traits in someone such as, i don't know, good leadership skills or calmness under pressure, and you desire to improve yourself in these aspects. As I've said, I admire my uncle a lot, but I don't want to swap places with him, there are just things about him that I admire.
