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Would you date someone who was genderqueer or didn't like any particular label?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Wuggums47, Jun 12, 2014.

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Would you date a genderqueer person?

  1. I am a trans woman and I would

    7 vote(s)
    13.7%
  2. I am a trans woman and I wouldn't

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  3. I am a trans man and I would

    6 vote(s)
    11.8%
  4. I am a trans man and I wouldn't

    1 vote(s)
    2.0%
  5. I am a cis woman and I would

    8 vote(s)
    15.7%
  6. I am genderqueer, non binary, or something else and I would

    14 vote(s)
    27.5%
  7. I am genderqueer, non binary, or something else and I wouldn't

    1 vote(s)
    2.0%
  8. I wouldn't date anyone ever

    1 vote(s)
    2.0%
  9. Other

    13 vote(s)
    25.5%
  1. Wuggums47

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    The title of the thread kind of says it all. Assume that the person would be the type of person you like in all other ways. I was going to include options for sexual orientation too, but there isn't enough space considering how many combos of gender, trans status, and orientation there are. I'm curious because I'd like to figure out my odds of getting in to a good relationship if I transition more.
     
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  2. IsThisAName

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    If they were biologically female, sure. I find androgyny very sexy. I would totally respect the fact that they don't identify as strictly male or female, but I need boobs (obviously because I'm gay), so if they were biologically male, it wouldn't work for me.
     
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    Not sure. Assuming that the person appears male and had the attributes of maleness I like in men, then, maybe. I would be uncomfortable at first because I am gay and only like 'men.' If a person's basic identity is not to identify as 'male,' then perhaps we wouldn't exactly be complementary for each other.

    Perhaps the easiest litmus test to see if we would even be a viable relationship is if they would be OK with me using male pronouns on they. If they prefer something else like "ze" "hir," or "they," I couldn't really date them. I know it may sound petty.

    I know they're not exactly related, but I don't find androgyny attractive.
     
  5. Wuggums47

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    Alamo, for me personally I like they, but I don't care is someone uses he or she too much. Most people see me as either a he or a she, and now that my hair's short I'm a he to them. I would feel really weird going around and insisting people call me ze/hir. I don't mean it's bad that people do, it's just really not for me. I'd feel too much like they are making accommodations for me, and I just want to be treated like they would treat anyone.
     
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    If anything, I would prefer it. Traditional gender expressions bore me, and while they're not exactly tied in every case, non-binary folk tend to be more accepting of deviations, and more willing to challenge long-held beliefs and norms, which is another turn on for me.
     
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    I understand :slight_smile:. Also, on the poll, you forgot to add the choices "I am a cis man and I would," "I am a cis man and I wouldn't." :lol:
     
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    I don't think l could date someone that was gender queer because I'm attracted to femininity . I would date a label less person as long as I understand stand their attraction.
     
  9. Wuggums47

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    Dammit, can a mod add "Cis woman and wouldn't, cis man and would, and cis man and wouldn't? Don't worry cisgendered people, I haven't forgotten you exist, just an oversight.

    ---------- Post added 12th Jun 2014 at 03:59 PM ----------

    Now I kind of wonder if the poll will still be accurate.
     
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    Yes, surely. :slight_smile:
    Maybe I'd prefer it, I don't know.
     
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    I thought I was only attracted to women.

    Male female cis trans or genderqueer does NOT matter to me at all. Anyone who loves me and accepts me for me and is someone I would like spending time with is good for me.
     
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    If i liked them.
    I could date a alien if i liked them and was attracted.
     
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    That's one of the things that worries me about labeling myself as a lesbian. As a lesbian, I am only attracted to women. Even if a person who identified as genderqueer happened to be feminine, and even if I liked them, I don't think I would be able to bring myself to date them. To me, it would be a matter of respect for their identity. As a lesbian, in my mind I need to see/acknowledge someone as woman in order for me to be attracted to them. If I am attracted to someone who is feminine but identifies as neither gender, then I feel like I would be disrespecting them because I would be viewing them as female and not as their preferred identity.
     
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    If they were biologically male, I would. But if he was over-sensitive about gender pronouns, then I think it'd annoy me in the longer run.
     
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    Sure, why not? :slight_smile:
     
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    Of course. This is one of the last things I'm worried about. I love humanoids, plain and simple.
     
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    Stuff like that makes no difference to me. :slight_smile:
     
  19. Miles16

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    Fuck yeah