Homophobia In Schools

it was quite bad at school I never wanted to come out ever most of the lads I hung about with were anti anything gay related .

 

Those people are scumbags. Every school has them, and that's unfortunate. That kid probably doesn't even support lesbians. He just supports lesbian porn. What I do to reduce homophobia and discrimination in general in my school (which is no small task; ugh Catholocism) is just put myself out there and be positive. I've also discovered the fastest way to shut down a discriminatory conversation is to ask for someone to explain for you. This works great especially on discriminatory jokes. Whenever somebody comes up to me at my school and gives me their "sympathies" for my "condition" or tells me I'm going to Hell, I explain to them how it says in the Bible to love everyone a ton more than to hate and oppress. For the guys who yell random crap in the halls, I've never really had to deal with that. No advice. Sorry

 

If I could go back and do everything again there is still no chance at all I would come out at school, being gay was really not ok with the kids I used to hang around with, or anyone tbh.

Still, my little bro of 14 tells me there's openly gay kids at our school now which I find pretty amazing, would not have happened in my time. Wow that makes me feel old, but things have changed so much in such a short space of time.

 

There will always be homophobia. If people were bullying a student then I think you should step in. But if there making rude remarks then they're just ignorant.

 

Im openly gay and.. unfortunately still suffering in school. Accidentally trusted the wrong people i guess... and.. got tricked into things i wish i could reverse and then BAM... everyone eventually found out i was gay, (though i was always considered gay even before i came out cause of .. idk.. how i am i suppose) and life turned to hell basically.

Kids are like.. extremely judgmental and rude and just, it really makes me feel upset because thats how things are ;~; I hear some stories of the issues getting better... but at the same time.. i always here about the poor kids who just couldnt stand to suffer from them not being accepted as who they are.

To me, its sickening.. and i just... wish the world would change. My school is a "bully free school" and "in support of any and all people" ... it would be nice if they actually gave me a reason to believe those statements, because they arent doing shit to help me... help a few other kids... stop the bullying.. and stop the hate.

But im rambling on.. so ill keep it at that >~<

 

I've never seen a lot of homophobia at my school, but that might be the result of me never talking to anyone outside of my small circle of nonjudgmental friends

 

I am an officer in the united states army Infantry, and I will tell you that homophobia is a regular thing here. But you cant let words get to you because if you do than you make them right. I hate the word faggot. faggot is literally one of the only word that makes my blood boil but f I am called that I do not let it effect me because then they are right. You have to be strong. Just like the old saying sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me. Take that saying to heart because it is so true. People are stupid and say stupid things. they trash on people that they don't even understand. Its just ignorance at its finest that's all. They are wrong to say the words that they do. In my profession it is my job to lead men into war dodge bullets and kill the enemy, if I were to let some words that someone said to me bother me and distract me, one of my men could be killed. Don't let their silly uneducated ignorant words hurt you, you are stronger then them.

 

Guys at my school always made it really awkward for me whenever me socialised with other schools - they would ask every girl I chatted to if they were my girlfriend - which was always a great way to make new friends. I tended to just ignore hurtful names and such - or with one guy I told him that if he was gonna call me names, at least use original ones, that way it's almost fun listening to what they come up with. If it really bothers you have a quiet word with a teacher. Otherwise, stay strong.(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)

 

I graduated from a conservative Christian school 12 years ago, so you know I won't disagree with you. :icon_sad:

 

So would it be smarter to come out in college or is it just as bad?

 

Something changes once kids graduate. They mature rather fast. I've known a couple people who waited, and one who didn't. It really worked out well for those who did.

 

Thank you for your service to our country, and for your leadership example as a gay man.

 

I am glad to do it thank you for the recognition.

 

Homophobia is sadly unavoidable unless you pretty much live in a hole... So instead of talking about all my homophobic experiences, I'm gonna shine some light into this thread.

I used to be classmates with this homophobic bully who would make homophobic regards everyday calling everyone f*****s and telling the class how everyone who's gay should be killed. Then I decided to change his views and sat next to him in Chemistry class. I helped him with his classwork and homework and would explain stuff to him. Although the comments didn't change, I continued to help him. When I came out, he was a bit shocked, but then he told me he probably could've guessed, but one thing he realised was that I was the same person. I didn't change who I was as a person. I believe that because he realised this, he is still friends with me until this day and he has stopped being such a bully and stopped the homophobic comments completely. It's a long journey but some people do change. So there's still hope out there people

 

In my opinion those kind of things basicly starts at home. If kids see from their parents hurting another person is right if they are different, they will do it without any remorse or feeling guilt.

In my experience you shouldn't be actually gay to called names, like faggot. Any silent, introvert boy can be their target. Boys usually raised with strong belief in importance of manliness. In their simple minds best way to feel more manly is making other guys, especially if they not part of their pack (yeah human males act like pack of wild dogs), look less manly. This is the real reason why those insults nearly everytime shouted among crowds or those ideas decrlared to their adoring fans... namely whole class.

While I get my share of insults from "manly" boys worse is one of those guys comes and asks for sexual intimancy when his friends ain't around... Sick.

 

It starts with education. If use the term equality and diversity training. That hopefully would cover the subject and raise awareness off all minority groups.

 

I hope you know you are a freaking rock star. :eusa_clap

 

so we have to serve these homophobic bullies in order to change their minds? What if they never change? we did them favors for nothing

 

They're several people in my class that are anti gay based on religion, one of them is my good friend. I'm glad that he never mentions it and isn't rude. He just thinks its wrong but won't hate you because of it. Obviously I haven't told him or anyone yet. I'm not "popular" at school so coming out may make that worse, a pan kid in the nerdy group lol. At least I'm not bullied, people know not to mess with me based off past bullies