When you tell someone you like him/her and they're not attracted to you... do you..?

Re: When you tell someone you like him/her and they're not attracted to you... do you

I feel all of those things you listed

 

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I don't just go up to someone and say "I like you". I feel like that's a really weird way to declare your feelings.

When I like someone, and I'm not sure how they feel, I gradually show my feelings to them in a subtle way. And if they respond, then I'll take it further, unless they do it first.

I feel like that's a way more natural way to start a connection with someone, rather than just saying it.

 

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Yes. There's a lot of crying involved.

 

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I go by a new rule now if they show no signs of liking me in the first week and I will give them about a month after that I write them off .

 

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That's why you do it in a SUBTLE way at first, so you can always pass it off as just being friendly.

If you get nothing in return, who cares? Then you can continue with just the friendship.

 

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On the only occasion to which the question applies, I felt like crap for about a month. Sad, humiliated, depressed, lonely, irrelevant. Then I gave up hope, and moved on to ... nothing since.

 

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I get like you listed, but then i move on, try to be friendss with them. its no big deal if someones not into me

 

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Personally, I have kept myself out of such situations for a long time. The longer one plays the game, the sooner one knows what your chances are and what reality looks like.

 

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The one time I got shut down abruptly in person, I just felt numb really. I had already gone on one date with her, and having her tell me she had a boyfriend thoroughly sucked. What was worst was that she never told me this in between the previous date and the next offer, like she didn't give a crap. The numbness came from the feeling not of rejection, but of betrayal by somebody I liked as both a friend and potential gf. O.O

 

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At first I feel hurt but then I realize you can't force someone to like you. To help me get over them I pick out their biggest flaw and then I never like them again.

 

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I've never confessed but it's one of those "god I'm such a fucking loser, such shame..." when I know for sure they aren't interested in me. I know it's not a healthy way to handle it but, we're all human you know? Rejection stings for awhile.

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imagine them taking the biggest sweatiest and disgusting strained dump on the planet to help heal the "why do i like this person anyway" pains

 

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For a few moments, I may feel like what has been described previously, but you have to get over it. Otherwise, you're only making a bad situation into a terrible one. You may not be able to stop the pain or discomfort entirely, but you can lessen the impact. So far, this has done wonders for me.

Years ago, I had a fancy for a young lady. She wasn't too snobby or elitist, but she had her social obligations. She and I were in a few classes together, and sat very close to one another, so we got to know each other, kind of... when I wasn't in trouble, haha. Over a period of time I started to fall for her, and I revealed how I felt one day. She told me, while flattered, I wasn't her type. I felt pretty unattractive and unappealing, but I went about my life.

Over the next few years, I worked out more, I got my mental stability level, and I learned how to better 'play the game', as Tightrope mentioned. Basically, I did whatever I could, to improve myself and ease the burdens of life. Some was easy, some moderate, and some downright challenging, but I did it.

I've come to learn, if someone doesn't like you in 'that way', then why worry about it? They obviously couldn't love you, as you'd want to love them. It is pointless to pine for what won't give you what you want, even if what you want is with the person you want, because what you want won't be had, because it isn't what the person you want wants to want.

And God damn, that is a lot of 'want'!

:lol:

The point still stands. Just consider any let down or setback as a sign, that something is just further ahead on the Road of Love. Fuck anyone or anything that stands in your way, I say. It's your life, do what you must, but do it with genuineness and passion.

 

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i lifted a weight and now i'm too hulk for girls, rest in peace

 

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I feel sad for a while but I don't end up shooting people so there's that.

 

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That is good!!!! Never shoot people. It'll be okay, pal!

 

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I put their face on a mental image of a boy from high school who ate his zits and ear wax. Works like a charm.

 

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(!!)

sounds like a keeper, that boy....

 

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I feel a bit of embarrassment, sadness and disappointment. I tend to feel regret at what "could have been." For the most part, however, I do try to just suck it up and move on. I figure I'll have better luck later down the line.