Hey, First off, I don't want this to become another one of those "I have a crush on xx, can you tell me if the following means their gay or might like me back". There are some people, nearly all straight, who can read people really well and discover who is gay/bi and who isn't though observations and behavior analysis. I have tried to look for something constructive on the internet but there is a lot of misleading information and I guess as homosexuality was seen as a mental illness/choice no one has really researched it enough to produce any meaningful findings. So yes, the question I am asking is, can someone give me some factual information on behavior traits etc that have been studied on gay/bi people if there is indeed anything conclusive out there. Thanks
About the only way to know for sure if a guy is bi/gay is "Hey are you into guys?". The spectrum of bi/gay men is as diverse as the spectrum of straight men... Well maybe more so because I have never heard of anyone being called a flaming heterosexual lol. This means there is no trait that is a gay trait or a straight trait.
that's very true and just as I thought. It is really a spectrum isn't it, i've had guys who are straight who try things or go the whole way and say their curious, i've known other straight guys who wont even talk about the subject. I've also known gay guys who try women once in a while... yep the list is endless.
Wow more people are probably bisexual than we think and men's sexuality is just as fluid as women and not cut and dry like people love to believe.
Stocking, I don't think anything in life is cut and dry. There is more curiosity in males, there is just too much stigma and fear that stops some of the shyest from trying things out. That said, not everyone wants to try things out. I am tempted to write about my bromance on here
I don't think there's any defining characteristics that'll tell you for sure. If you want to ask someone without being really direct maybe you could ask them about relationships or bring up gay rights news and try to get a hint that way. I think people who guess whether people are gay/bi based on observations/behavior traits are usually making assumptions based on stereotypes (a guy likes feminine things, must be gay). They could also just be able to tell if that person has a crush on someone else and if the person is the same sex, then it makes sense to assume they're gay/bi/pan.
The only real way to tell is to ask them. I do think there are ways you can get an idea, like watching who they check out, but they will always be flawed.
