Biological desire to have procreate? Why is the focus on women?

I just always wondered this? Like I was trying to look up whether it was a biological desire to want to have kids of your own or not. Because I was talking to a fb friend who indicated that it was not a natural desire to have a need to procreate and in men especially. The thing is I've noticed among my brothers full brothers they all have children They're both in their 20's. My dad was the same way. I'm like the only guy with no children 20 years old. My brothers always had a desire to have kids actually lot of kids with a lot of different women. Each one has at least 2 women they've had a child at least with. I myself had always wanted children but like I don't like girls well the ones that can get pregnant at least so it's always been a future thing but I'm so young now my gf and I are still in school and stuff so yea. My dad's dad was the same way and none of them are deadbeats. My cousin is even this way has two kids already at 22. So I decided to look it up if biological desire to procreate is actually real all I could find was about women and motherhood. I was not concerned about motherhood. I was curious in men how come so many articles are focused on motherhood when I'd think it would include both?

 

Yeah I think it does too I just couldn't find anything on it I changed my search and found more stuff more about women and motherhood but one included men haven't read it yet.

I don't get why it's believed though typically that women have a stronger biological desire.

 

logically I guess that makes sense consider is how bad childbirth can be.

I guess it's just from how I was raised. My mom and the women in her family didn't really seem to want their children. My mom said likely if she never met my dad she'd never have had kids. That she had kids for both of her husbands not for her own desire. Many of the women in my mom's family actually let the dads takes care of their kids or even the grandpa in worst situations.

 

I always thought people long ago had a lot more pressure on the sons to have children to pass inheritance and the like.

 

I want to have kids by 28 at least. But my gf doesn't want kids until her early 30's.

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yeah I've heard of that. But for men it's harder to conceive as they age.

 

I believe there is.

 

sexual attraction actually itself has to do with it. If there was no biological desire to procreate so many men wouldn't like the whr ratio so often. I read somewhere that the waist to shoulder ratio is also analogous to the whr in women which is a little weird to me because I can't create a child with a guy yet I find those characteristics attractive. So even on the basic level it has been proven that the attractive people are subconsciously seen as their healthiest and most fertile etc.

My father's family is a good example of that including my brothers. My brothers weren't even raised with my dad so there was no pressure. In my early 20's now I definitely don't feel pressure to have a child. So it's definitely not a socially ingrained thing.