Why so many lesbians date transmen?

Live above. If they like women, why they decide to date transmen?

I don't like when a lesbian would stay with me just because I'm not a male assigned-at-birth. It's like if her prority is what I have between my legs and not what I have around my heart.

What are your thoughts?

 

I really don't know. Maybe they were with him before he came out and fell in love with his personality? I dislike when they are with them and still identify as a lesbian. Really. If you like him, you are bi.

 

Yeah. Believe me, it drives me nuts. I'm not a mega super butch- I'm just a guy and I wanna be recognized as one. I'm not just a life support system for my parts.

I however don't mind if my partner has a preference for trans men or whatever. So long as they're attracted to guys.

 

I don't get it either. As a lesbian, I don't view trans men as potential partners. They're MEN.

I feel like a lot of lesbians don't understand trans people; they'll date trans men because they see them as 'female' because of their parts, which is bullshit. Even if he has a vagina, It's going to give off a VERY male vibe that women with vaginas don't have, especially if he's on T.

I hate how some lesbians also judge some of us who will date trans women. They think we're traitors because we're choosing to date "men" (Um hello, they aren't men at all??). I've heard some disgusting comments including:
"You aren't a lesbian, you're appropiating our identity"
and even "I can't date a trans woman, even if they've completed their transition because having an XY chromosome still makes them a man" (Um, what?!)

I don't hold any judgements though if a lesbian is with a trans man because he didn't come out until later and she thought he was a "woman" up until then. She'd be justified in still being a lesbian then due to not knowing. But she can either still love him for the inside or break up because she isn't into guys.

 

You're a special :icon_bigg

:eek: God, tell me they don't really think in this manner... :dry:

This happens when the transman haven't come out to himself or to the others but it's justified in that case. However, YEAH! They're bi or pan or just queer, but NOT lesbians.

People have to understand we aren't butches. But is it SO difficult to understand??? :tantrum:

I'm sorry, man (*hug*) Try to be more "authoritative" with her. What she said to you when you explained to her your identity?

 

I don't see a problem with it as long as they use the correct pronouns, and respect their identity. If they try to insist that they are still a woman, and that they aren't in a straight relationship, that's when there is a problem. I think our sexualities are probably a bit more complex than the labels we try to put on them, and that's why some lesbians are somehow able to date a trans man.

 

I agree with you. But how do a person know exactly if a girl loves you for who really you are or, instead, still thinks I'm a woman?

 

What is a woman? A miserable little pile of secrets.

---------- Post added 19th Jun 2014 at 02:48 PM ----------

You think this question may have me cornered, but little did you expect to activate my trap card, OP!!!! I have never actually dated anyone, so my input on the topic is useless! Ha!

So why am I here? Well uh I like landmines

 

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But it could be so amazing to find a pansexual girl...because you are very sure she loves you for who you are.

 

you took the words out of my mouth . also it does not help that some trans men look for gay women to date and say that no straight women will date them