Do you go to gay bars/clubs?

I haven't gone yet sorry (*hug*)

 

i want to go so badly when i get out of this god damn country
but if you ask me its better to go with a friend ^_*

 

I went once (a couple of weeks ago). Went for a friend's birthday. I felt welcomed. It was actually less "weird", "different" or "awkward" than I expected. Chatted with a few new people. Apparently, one of the gay guys I was chatting with was hitting on me. I didn't even realize it

 

We have two gay bars in my city. One is complete and utter shit and I'd rather get hit by a bus than visit that place again. The other has only opened this month, so I still need to check that out. I've already planned to go there some day soon with a (gay) friend of mine though.

 

Can't say that I have. I was an avid bar- and club-goer for quite some time, and I'm sort of over that scene. And I don't feel like the gay bar/club scene is really my style.

 

I have and I went by myself I didn't feel welcome because I didn't look stereo-typically Lesbian and they thought I was straight and i was greeted rudely not the oh hi welcome it was more like Go sit over there on the straight side of the bar .
Well this is just for my town there aren't much out there for lesbians and if you go to the gay bar it's kind of a waste of time in my opinion because it's mostly straight girls and gay guys in there where I live . So I'm very hesitant to go again , kinda sucks sitting there watching a bunch of gay guys kiss and meet up when your alone . But this is my experience in my town anyway depends on where you live I guess

 

I vaguely remember my first time, I was with 2 of my friends (housemates/gay couple).
Definitely didn't feel unwelcome at all. Mainly just stood there gawking at all the same-sex public displays of affection around me.
As a generally nervous, shy, closeted teenager, I didn't feel out of place or majorly judged or anything (obviously I was out of the closet to my housemates). Was a bit of a relief actually from my everyday self-pitty.

I still go out to gay bars/clubs fairly often. I guess I'm pretty lucky that the ones in my area are really laid back and have lots of places to talk/socialise with people as well as drinking and dancing.
I have been to a lot that I didn't find pleasant at all for though for various reasons.
What I mean is, if you don't like 1 gay bar, it doesn't mean you'll dislike all of them. A short walk down the road could mean a drastic change in atmosphere.

Peace! (*hug*)

 

Yes, a few times.

The first time was back in 2003, when I was with my grandmother in Brazil. Rio de Janeiro to be exact. When we would finish with our tour group, we'd have an evening meal, and then head back to our hotel rooms. My grandmother would give me money, and allow me to go out and about, since the hotel was near the beach and various strips of activity.

I would wander about, encountering several prostitutes (had a discussion with one about politics, by the way, that was interesting) as I did. Eventually I came up to this one club that was just bumping. I, being just a month short of being 17, was able to get in with a few American dollars.

It was pretty vibrant inside. I recall a lot of feathers, bubbles, and loud dance music, which littered the dance floor's dancers. One young man was just getting it on the dance floor... I was just blown away by how wild he was getting.

After making a few laps around, I left. My grandmother, the next morning, asked me what I had done. I told her, " Talked to a prostitute about President Bush. Went to a gay bar. Got a thumbs up from, who I think, was a pimp. " Her eyes widened for a second, then she laughed a bit and said, " What better place than Rio? " We both kind of laughed, then went about our business, before resuming our tour with the rest of the tour group.

Fast forward a few years, and I've gone to some in the Nashville area. Tennessee to be more specific, for those not from around the States. Nothing too fancy here. Though there appeared to be more heterosexuals than anybody else. A lot of women, too, who were all over the gay men.

I don't mind checking out clubs, no matter their theme or demographic, but I'm not really a club-type personality. I tend to prefer a more reserved environment, because I like the welcoming potential of conversation, without having to scream like a banshee over some bass-kicking symphony.

One of my finer moments in life was, dancing to Michael Jackson's "Smooth Criminal", during a karaoke session at a gay club, so, I guess that is worth mentioning.

 

I've never been to one, but I don't really like to go to bars and clubs anyway ^-^

 

I have only been to one, and definitely went alone. I was very nervous to go in, once I went in I enjoyed it. It got me away from reality. The people were friendly, and nice. Very welcoming.. I felt comfortable there. It is one of the few times I have felt comfortable, and relaxed. Plus the bar had great drink prices, a nice patio to sit out on.

 

I posted about my first time going to a gay bar recently in another thread, so I'm going to copy and paste. I hope no one minds if I copy my own work.

When I first came out I made a lot of friends in bars. Actually I remember my first gay outing. I went to the Pride Parade--alone--and it was great but I was alone and I didn't really meet any one there. So I went to a bar there on the parade route--I ordered Sprite because I didn't really know what to do. And then I told anyone who asked that I had never been to the parade before--eventually it came out that I had never been to a gay bar either. People thought it was great that I had just been to my first parade and they sort of introduced me around, then the people who I was introduced to introduced me around. I think I probably "met" a couple hundred people that afternoon (it's a really big bar) and really hit it off with quite a few of them--I'm still friends with many of them twenty years later. Numbers were exchanged, plans were made--principally that I would meet a bunch of them back at that same bar the following Sunday.

I remember riding the bus home that night just beaming at this whole new life I'd found. I also remember somewhere in the back of my mind thinking that surely it was all too good to be true. What if I went back the next Sunday and none of them were there? Maybe none of them would remember me? But almost as if they knew they had to allay my fears, that night two different guys from that afternoon called me to make sure I'd gotten home safe. That next Sunday I was introduced to the rest of the guys who would provide the core of my friends for the next ten years. There were about twenty-five of us (we even had a straight guy) and on any day of the week you could find maybe ten of us out and we always started at that same bar and then every Sunday we were all there. I kind of thought they would just be my bar friends--and that would have been good enough--but there were cocktail parties and dinners, trips to amusement parks and croquet matches in the park and two of the guys threw the most amazing holiday party every year and we were just there for each other--for years and years.

Eventually as I got more and more comfortable I met guys in other ways--I led a gay book group, I met guys at work and the gym, I met guys at street fairs and on the street from time to time. But in all honesty it was the guys I met in bars--the great friends who always looked out for me--who gave me the confidence to meet guys in all those other places. And when it really worked out I would introduce them to that circle of friends and when it didn't work out they were there to console me. I met my husband of 16 years in that very same bar--years after coming out. And all these years later even though we've moved out of the neighborhood (we moved from the young gay neighborhood to the more established gay neighborhood when we bought our home) we still go back to that same bar every few months and you know we pretty much always still run into a few people we know.

So while I know the bars aren't for everyone, I guess I'd just say maybe try it once or twice. I'm living proof--you can always order Sprite.

 

Ok. This is weird... It makes me feel dirty lol
The first time I went to a gay club I was 15, the club doesn't exist anymore. It name was "the under". It was a dark place, in all the meanings of the word. But the music was awesome. I went like 6 or 7 times between 15 and 18.
Ah... Good memories

 

I have been to a couple gay bars before and had a great time. I found the atmosphere to be a lot more fun than a "normal" bar. The people are so much more welcoming and laid back. I would go now but I'm usually home with my kids these days.

 

I used to before they shut the gay club down in my area

 

I believe I'm too young. 20

 

no but the idea scares me to tears because i'm socially inept and disappointing

 

Ive only been once but it really isnt my scene. I rather spend a night in cuddling up to a movie than go to a bar or club.

 

Nope, never been to a gay club or bar..

 

Get a dog and stick to dog parks. Just as many lesbians there as a bar and they all come to you instead of weeping in a corner.