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Is it a waste of time for a lesbian to go to a gay bar ?

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  1. stocking

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    I first experience at a gay bar was not good in part that there were mostly straight girls there and gay men should I give up on going to gay bars in my town ?:dry:
     
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    Where I live, the lesbians tend to go to the normal bars. I don't know why, but they seem to. Also alternative places like hippie cafes and such tend to attract a more diverse range of women. This is what I've found at least :slight_smile:
     
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    My first one was so terrible that I'm scared I tried to flirt and Kept getting I'm straight all night along that thing drove me to depression for a while it's not fun and I ended up getting drunk :icon_sad:
     
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    Based on my personal experience, it's a waste of time for gay folks, too (in my particular point of view) I strongly dislike those places

    Yeah I don't know why straight people go there, too. Like Jesus! we go there because we want to escape from them lol

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    what a nightmare :dry:

    There's no point straight people go to those places :bang:
     
  5. Fallingdown7

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    It would be nice if they made heterosexual interactions "against bar rules" so anyone who tries it gets kicked out, and then lesbians would feel safer avoiding horny straight men.

    If course It would technically be discrimination, and I'm not trying to say heterosexual interactions should be wrong or frowned upon. But it defeats the point of a GAY BAR! We go there to ESCAPE from straight people.
     
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    I agree you know it's not that they were there that got me mad it's the fact that they acted shock when a lesbian hit on them like Oh no this isn't suppose to happen and I wanted to say Your in a gay bar what the hell did you expect to happen !
    The one straight woman I didn't mind her she was nice she said kindly I'm not a lesbian and then she told me she was there to support her gay friend . It's like gay bars aren't a good place to meet gay people anymore you know I don't feel like going anymore . I will go to pride again at a gay bar but I sure as hell am not approaching anymore sucks when you try to get into the swing of things as a baby lesbian and get your feet wet then you get embarrassed trying to do it , I was thinking finally I can be myself for once in public , well I guess I was wrong . I should have just kept taking to the other gay guys because they were great and cool but some unlike me were looking for other guys to go with so they ended up leaving but you can't blame them but I wanted to have fun too .
     
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    Never had the experience of going to gay bar, heck I don't even know one! But then I get invited often in facebook in lesbian parties. Maybe you should find any scheduled lesbian parties in normal bars. That would be the right audience/atmosphere you're looking for.
     
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    Yeah, I get those thoughts, too

    I feel awkward thinking about the possibility of hitting on straight men IN GAY BARS and PRIDE PARADE. It's great that they want to support their loved ones but they make unbearable for other gay people also
     
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    I wish that could be a rule too I got hit on by a straight guy in there who after I told i'm a lesbian still hit on me In a gay bar on pride true that that's the one place I want to be safe being a lesbian I can't be lesbian out there because I might get stalked more or harassed .

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    I'll try looking but google sucks at finding lesbian parties my town needs to be more accommodating to lesbians

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    Yes ! and a pain in the butt for us baby lesbians :bang: trying to get out of the closet .
     
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    But in their minds it's wrong (and totally POINTLESS) for gay people to try to hit on straight folks in regular bars
     
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    Yes, it is. Not just because of the horny straight men. As someone who's anti-alcohol and anti-smoking, and finds the idea of "hooking up" to be completely unappealing, me trying to find a girlfriend in any bar would be like looking for chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream in a table factory.
     
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    I wish there were safer places for us to find significant others, as I also dislike alcohol and hooking up. I do empathize with gay people trying to find someone in bars though.
     
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    I strongly dislike gay bars for the exact same reasons (I don't drink nor smoke and I can't dance to save my life), I also dislike cruising apps, porn theaters, filthy bathrooms

    Meanwhile, straight people can effortlessly find a significant other in the grocery store and this is the main reason why I have a hard time trying to be emphatic when they talk about their romantic dramas lol
     
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    Yes or even kiss your girlfriend in a regular bar I once saw a lesbian post about her and her girlfriend getting harassed at regular bars and One man said Go to your own bar and kiss there .

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    Maybe I'm really looking in the wrong place :confused:

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    It's a pain , next time i go to a gay bar I'm just gonna have fun with the gay guys , for a while I know they'll go talking to other guys and stuff but now i know what to expect
     
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    This kind of nasty behavior is whats makes me a little biased towards straight people, especially guys :dry:
     
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    I know right I agree I don't like drinking (sadly I'm ashamed to say I got drunk there at my first one )
    I know me too they have it a lot easier in finding a significant other . unless they have social anxiety I can see why it would be hard but like you i feel the same way .
    Now I wonder where are all the lesbians at >.<
     
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    I drink sometimes, but I don't know if I'd trust myself to get drunk at a public place. I almost worry about what would happen if I got taken advantage of, which is why I avoid bars.
     
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    Yeah it's like don't kiss here at my bar if I'm not gonna get anything out of it attitude with them
     
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    AND.... I happen to have social anxiety, too, so even if a straight friend with s.a. tries to tell me how hard it is for him/her I would still be a little cynical :roflmao:
     
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    I only had 3 shots but I didn't eat any food so I got drunk really fast , then I got groped by a straight guy . but your right it's not safe there even at gay bars I thought that was the last place I could run into a straight guy

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    Omg me 3 I have it too bad .