Femininity

*raises eyebrow*

It takes a lot for me to view someone as "disgusting" or to truly "hate them." Being very feminine is certainly not one of the potential reasons.

 

I don't think there is a legitimate reason for hating a guy for being "too" feminine. To be honest its a rather ignorant and sexist mindset.

Thats disgusting..

 

There's a point with regards to other things. There is no point with being feminine. Someone could be "the most feminine person in the world" and I still would not hate them or find them disgusting.

Agreed - like that, prince - I find that disgusting. That type of thinking.

 

Actually, I love feminine people of all genders.

 

The only thing that disgusts me in people is hate. Sure, I don't get along with everyone, but the only thing I hate is when people mistreat eachother
Feminism isn't something I would hate.
Also "oh my lanta " is in no way feminine
It's just a phrase
It's not like he said. "Oh my vag"

 

I second this.

 

I don't hate feminine-looking guys at all. On the contrary, I'm usually really physically attracted to them.

And ironically, judging by your friends "rape" comment, they seem to have some sexual frustrations towards feminine guys as well..

 

raped by what... another guy???

 

:eusa_eh:

Ooooh-kaaaay....

Well, actually I don't mind guys being feminine. What irritates me is guys being wimps. Like, I have this one coworker that, I swear, has to go home every time he has a tummy ache. He can't even fucking stay at work and tough it out, and he doesn't even act like he's in very much pain. I hate it when guys use lame excuses to get out of things. "Well, I rebuilt my car's engine yesterday and threw my back out, but I'm fine. Oops, I've got stomach pain. Might just be gas, or it could be the flu. Looks like I can't finish my shift."

Yeah, that's right, go home, you damn dirty son of a bitch. :dry:

But yeah, guys being feminine is perfectly fine with me. I don't consider being wimpy a feminine thing by any stretch of the imagination. I just see it as generally prissy and annoying.

 

I'm in-between and I have no problem at all with uber-feminine guys (just like I have no problem with uber-masculine guys). That's just how they are, it's the most comfortable way for them to express themselves. Who am I to judge?

 

^I always want to smack the shit out of them, but I never do. :dry:

 

The term itself, I hate. Firstly, what traits constitute an individual who is “wimpy” are extremely subjective – hence, it is very difficult for me to tell what someone means when they call another person a “wimp.” Secondly, it is often used derogatorily toward men in a manner that suggests they aren’t “manly” enough, or that they should “stop acting like a girl.” Much akin the phrase “stop being a pussy” (in case they don’t have the term in Syria – literally “stop being a vagina,” i.e., stop being a woman.” Which of course is very offensive to women, since the insinuation is that women are naturally “wimpy,” and a man is worse off for being that way. And a further point, though unrelated to the above: who am I to judge the actions of another as cowardly, when I am not in their shoes?

As for men that are “wimpy,” again, the term is used so subjectively that I would have a hard time telling what someone meant by it. The type of people I find attractive are those that raise a middle finger to the world and in essence do not care what anyone thinks about them, and instead endeavor to simply be themselves. So if men (or anyone) that care about what other people think are “wimpy” (which is not the term I would use to describe them – more like “unnecessarily concerned with the thoughts of other people”), then so be it, I suppose.

 

i love femininity, i love love love it, stereotypical and flamboyant and more nuanced and subtle it doesnt matter, and i dont unlove the lack of it i love it too but i love it, boy or girl or other or whatever i just, oh man.... people
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If you're annoying I don't want to hang with you, if you're awesome, I would love to. Could care less about fem/masc or anything like that. I hate division!

 

I agree with Browncoat on both the topic of femininity and being a "wimp".

I certainly don't see masculine men as any less appealing, platonic or romantically, but life would be immensely more boring without feminine men. Personally, I am very neutral on the spectrum, but even simply being there has brought me a degree of judgement and ridicule over my years. There is something about having to go through so much in order to embrace who you on that sets people who diverge from gender archetypes apart from those that don't. Not that those who don't are less interesting by comparison; there is just a different perspective and attitude towards life that are commonly found in them. Which is exactly why I love them.

This is very true. I can honestly say that I have never hated someone and thought "I should rape them and teach them a lesson". This is simply not a natural response to disgust, but it is a terribly common mindset.