Coming out to the same sex

yea, some guys at my school act like that, but i go to kinda like a private school, so yea

 

I definitely worry about that. But how much I worry definitely depends on how much I care about what they think of me. I got really worried that it would make some of my close friends uncomfortable. But for people who I don't really care what they think of me, I feel like I don't really care, and if they feel uncomfortable they just need to get over themselves

 

Yes, very very much so. It's why the only friends I can come out to are ones I've been friends with for years and years, so they know for sure I don't even think of them that way.

 

If it makes you feel better, you could always make friends with people who you're legitimately not attracted to - then it should be a non-issue.

Ultimately, the only way you can control what they think and feel about you is by telling them or not telling them that you're gay. If you tell them, their reactions will be just that ... reactions... and you can't control those. No one can (without a lot of practice at least).

 

Not that ive come out to many people, but i do worry if i did, that every girl would think im attracted to them and act different towards me because of it.

 

Yes, I get worried. I've told a couple of my guy friends and both times I worried profusely that they'd just say "You don't have a crush on me, do you?" but luckily they didn't. That's okay, as attractive as they both are it'd still be awkward for me if I started dating one of them.

 

Ugh, I hate coming out to other girls. They always try to "convert" me by talking about guys with me.

 

Only came out to 2 guys directly so far(one being my brother) and the rest were females. It was still very awkward. I get where the OP is coming from. I just told the females they can tell their husbands or significant others but no one else outside their immediate family as I'm inching out on my own.

 

I feel worse about coming out to the opposite sex since I don't get nearly as bad of a reaction or a threat from straight women.

 

Hey, I usually let people get to know me until I come out to them. No one has accused me of fancying them and only 1 person ever turned their back on me (he died a few years ago). The only people who have made the accusations are other gay people who I wern't really into lol

 

I get worried about these things

1. she thinks I want to have sex with her and I'm attracted to her
2. she thinks she can use me as her little experiment to try out lesbian sex
3 she invites me for a 3some with her and her boyfriend despite the fact that I told her I'm a lesbian .
4. she asks me stupid questions about lesbian sex
5. she asks me about my sexual history or wants me to prove I'm a lesbian
6. she tells me how great dick is and that I'm missing out and not sleeping with the right men .
I always thought if dick is so damn great why do most women not orgasm from it ?
7. She gets scared of me and starts treating me different
8. She doesn't want to hangout with me because I'm a lesbian and I don't like chasing dick like her .

9. She treats me worst now that she knows I'm lesbian and hangs out with me less .

 

No, not really. I couldn't care less if they feel awkward. If they suddenly think that I'm going to come onto them or are automatically be attracted to them then they really need to get over themselves.

Happy days

 

Yes, quite a bit. After coming out to friends I try hard not to give them the impression I like them, whether I do or not, because I don't want things to be awkward. I think it's generally not a problem though as long as you don't give them reason to think you like them.

 

Yep. I'm always scared that when I come out to my female friends they'll start treating me differently. So far, that hasn't happened thankfully.

 

I've never had any negative reactions from any of my guy friends, including one who I had a crush on and thought might be gay (he isn't).

Once I'm out, I sort of test to see what people are comfortable with me talking about...from celebrities I find attractive at the most basic level up to stories of sexual encounters at the most extreme, and then I know where the line is. I go cautiously with that and check to make sure the person is comfortable.

 

I never really thought of it like that. But if someone is convinced they are so sexy that all the gay people want them, who am I to shatter their delusions.

 

yea.it still bothers me a bit, and i think there are some guys in my class that are a bit wierded out, but since i came out, i don't really care what people think about me. but it still does concern me a bit.

 

A little. My friend i came out to was a little uncomfortable when i told her (we had to share a room with one bed for two days) but after the first day and a few questions she was all okay about it. We even went to a party on the last day and she kept pointing out girls or guys to me.

 

I'm always slightly surprised how tolerant everyone is I'm only out to one guy, actually. I think he's possibly gay
Oddly enough, two of the times I've come out, one told me she was bicurious and the other told me she was probably bisexual. That could just be an attempt to relate, but I think in one of the cases it was actually true.