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can like and have feelings for someone but not want to be with them?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by stocking, Jun 27, 2014.

  1. stocking

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    Is this possible,?:confused:
     
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    Like romantic feelings:confused:
     
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    Actually, yeah. There's a thing called lithromanticism, where you feel romantic attraction towards someone, but you don't desire or don't need reciprocation.

    Is there an actual reason for this? Maybe. I dunno, really. But the term is out there.

    EDIT: Here's a tumblr link. Lithromanticism
     
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    Yeah, I think so. It's happened to me a couple times but I find it's not so much that I'm in love with them but that I'm more in love with the idea of them as a person.
     
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    I think this may be it.

    I had some odd feelings for a friend once, and while I could almost call it romantic attraction, I don't think it was. Regardless, I didn't desire for her to return the affection. In fact, the thought of it made me really embarrassed. I suppose I could describe my situation as lithromantic, but as drwinchester said, it's probably because I was in love with the idea of them as a person instead of... well, them. Or maybe not. I dunno.

    I think it's best not to think too hard on these sort of things and just accept it as how it is. Haha.
     
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    I've never experienced this personally, but I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with it. If you find you don't feel the desire to actually be with the person you have feelings for, then odds are that either knowingly or unknowingly there's a reason for it. It could have something to do with you and your own life or situation or maybe them or theirs, or some other reason. But I wouldn't worry about it.

    If anything, I've experienced the opposite; I was so in love and desperate to be together that I took what I could get. And that ended so very, very badly.