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Would you come out even if you had a homophobic family?

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  1. Raya

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    I think I'd rather runaway then come out to my homophobic family.
    Unless develop enough courage to do so...:eusa_doh:
     
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    Yes. I'd only do it once I was in a position to cut contact and sustain myself financially.
     
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    This is the plan which I am going to do in the future.
     
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    That is my plan....
     
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    My family is homophobic, and I still came out to them. Why?

    Because I'm trans, and even if I like other boys, they still see me as a girl. So whoop-ee-doo! Saved from homophobia by misgendering.

    If I was cis and gay, however, I feel like I will still come out. It's hard keeping things like this to myself, especially if I'm struggling with it.
     
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    I wouldn't do it until I was moved out of the house
     
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    My immediate family is homophobic, and I still plan on coming out. I live on my own but am financially dependent. I have extended family allies though and a cousin who has agreed to house me in TX if the crap hits the fan.
     
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    Yeah, I'm not coming out to my dad until then.
     
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    Yes, but I would treat it as a tactical exercise - only doing it after I was physically and financially independent. A goal which I would work very hard to achieve as rapidly as possible.

    My family isn't homophobic, but if they were this is how I would address the issue.

    Todd
     
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    I have a homophobic family and I didn't come out to them yet my friends know I'm a lesbian but my parents have no idea . I'm waiting til i move out , I don't want my mom forcing men on me .
     
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    Only when I was free from them, like when I'm going off to college.
     
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    My family is very homophobic and transphobic, so there's no way I'm coming out to them. I think I'd lose my family completely. I'd only consider coming out if I was completely independent and preferably very far away from them. But even then it's not likely because my sister has informed me that if I were a lesbian or trans*, she wouldn't let me in her house. And I can't picture the rest of my family being any more accepting.
     
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    I couldn't ever do it. I'm in a homophobic neighborhood and school. My family is understanding but I still just couldn't do it. I applaud people who do! (!) (&&&)
     
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    my whole family is seriously homophobic i was practically raised in a church mass everyday and they take it so serious so that's why i haven't told anyone coz it hurts to know everything you've known to be wrong you can't help feeling it
     
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    Yes, but I'd wait until I was independent.
     
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    Definitely--but I would have waited until I was financially stable.
     
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    Perhaps, but I'd have a backup before I would even consider telling them if they were homophobic. Fortunately, my mom supports lgbt and my dad doesn't really seem to care one way or the other.
     
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    It depends on how homophobic they are. My family is homophobic and I did come out to them except for my brother and two sisters. My siblings, especially my eldest sister and 17 year old brother would most likely condemn me forever...as would my grandparents.
     
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    I did, but I was sort forced into it by the situation. Even then, I was living on my own at the time. I knew my parents were fundamentalists and would react negatively. I didn't want to alienate anyone.