non-negotiables in a relationship

If they hurt an animal. Ever.
Even if it was in the past, if she has kicked a dog in anger, what will she do to my dogs? Or me?

 

I don't have any. I love the person for the positives and wait to look at if my girlfriend had anything overpowering negatives. Everything with me is a second chance unless it's of a great severity.

Cheating for example.. If it was one time of anything at all.. Yes the relationship would be damaged.. But I would give another chance.. If it was more than that no matter how many people or times.. We would be done.

Then there's the extremes.. Being a murderer or a rapist.. I would be done at that as well. This is a pretty broad and wide range subject of "What ifs" and "exceptions" along with the etc. :icon_redf

 

I only have a few really...
- If they believe virginity is existent as a concept
- If they do strong drugs
- If they have children (WAY not ready for that)

I would also say if they're just looking for casual sex, but that's easy to avoid since they wouldn't want a relationship anyway.

 

They have to be male :lol:.

 

Murderers (I would date someone who has killed before, but not murdered)
Rapists
Pedophiles
Animal abusers
Human traffickers

 

Anyone who doesn't respect my privacy and/or accuses me of being dishonest.
It sounds mild, but I've let it slide before and regretted it later.

 

Violence and not respecting privacy. Everything else is negotiable.

 

I can't really think of one. I mean, if they are my partner, surely they wouldn't do something that would make me want to break up with them right then and there. There are non-negotiables when it comes to finding a person for you, and it takes a considerable amount of trust from me to be with someone, so I'd like to think they won't do horrible thing. I guess cheating is the worse they can do, but even that could be overlooked if it's only temporary.

If they don't love me anymore though, then we will break up.

 

strange enough...smoking

cigarettes...not gonna happen
weed...no problem

otherwise I don't have much that bothers me

 

Drug using.
Cheating.
Hurting people or animals.
And if a pedophile or rapist tried to date me i would take them in to the police.

 

Yep.
If they hurt an animal then they'd have to go.

 

I'm a very tolerant person, but if my partner was actively involved in something illegal other than smoking weed and pirating media (both for personal use without intent to distribute), I wouldn't be able to stay with him. There is just no way. I also couldn't be with someone who was cruel and abusive, be it to me or anyone else or any other living thing, including plants. If you're one of those dickheads who kills anything for no actual purpose, we're not going to get along.

The big deal-breaker for me is if someone tries to change me. If you consistently try to change me, our relationship will be very, very short. Improvement is one thing, but don't mess with who I am.

 

I'd break up with someone who raped a person.

There are some other pretty damn likely ones, but I say rape is the only non-negotiable one, because as far as I'm concerned, rape is always wrong, and most other things are more nebulous.

I'd be okay with drug use, illegal (but moral) activity, smoking and that sort of thing. I'd tolerate an incident of cheating, and a few other things, I'd consider staying with them so long as I were at least somewhat confident they'd never do it again.

 

Rape
Smoking
Abusive (or a very violent person for example, being quick to anger)
Drinking
Pedophile

 

Big NoNos -
Pedophile
anyone who's involved (or addicted) in various narcotics
animal abusers

BIg yes!-
man
common sense =P

 

Violence
I don't have a problem with drug use per se, but I couldn't cope with him being an addict.
Overweight and a sedentary lifestyle. Sorry, call me vain or whatever, idgaf.

 

Cheating.

drugs

alchol abuse

major hangups with Bisexuals

 

- Habit of lying constantly or keeping a lot of stuff to himself
- Pedophile or rapist (obviously)
- Addicted to hard drugs

I think that's it.

 

Abuse, as most have already stated.

I know that I could not/would not date someone that had a serious addiction to something, whether it be drugs, alcohol or something less common.

And I hate to say it, but being in the closet might be a deal breaker for me. I would be fine and supportive of that person staying in the closet while with certain family members/friends, if they feared being rejected by the people that
they loved. However, if as adults after having dated for a long time, the person would still not be able to be publicly out, I don't think that I would be able to deal with that. Selfish though it may sound, I would not want to be pushed back into the closet as an adult. I respect people's decisions to stay closeted, it is entirely their choice, but I don't think that I would be able to date someone that was closeted because it took me a long time to get to where I am now, and to where I want to be in the next few years and I would not be able to step back into the closet with someone.