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Thoughts on dating websites?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Lukas17, Jul 7, 2014.

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Thoughts on dating sites?

  1. I use them and I have only good memories.

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  2. I've used them but not anymore.

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  3. I haven't used it because I think people go there only to find someone for hooking up.

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  4. I haven't used it at all (other reasons).

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  1. Lukas17

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    What are your thoughts on dating websites or sites similar like this one?
    My opinion is that a lot of people are looking only for hooking up there and that's it, as I read somewhere some people laughed one guy because he described himself as someone who wants love or something like that.
     
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    I've used one or two before and i was fine with it, made a few friends and i even talk to one or two of them to this day. I like them! I think they are good!
     
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    from what I see and hear, dating sites seem to be a lot for sex.......and that's not my kinda thing.....
     
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    I've used them, but felt they were an awkward and irritating experience.
     
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    I've used them, but thinking back on it...I would say they're more or less, but you have to be very careful and explicitly state what it is you want.
     
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    I've always found them to be miserable. They seem to attract the most shallow of people; I've never gotten even a single decent conversation out of one.
     
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    I've not had any personal experiences with them, but a friend who has had several bad experiences with them, liars and such, so I don't think I'll be wasting my time with them.
     
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    i always regret
     
  9. the gypsy

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    Yeah. People laughed in my face for the exact same thing.

    They treated me like a silly child because I wanted something real and lasting.

    You're right not to waste your time.
     
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    A waste of time , most of the people on there are just looking for sex and if your looking for love it's not the best place but I have heard people say they have found their long time love on there .
     
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    There is no: "I've used them and I still use them." so I chose that, as the first option isn't entirely true.
    I've tried many kinds of dating apps and sites, because I just don't. meet. new. gay. people.
    I've had bad experiences with them, and I still have active accounts on several of them, though my interest has significantly lessened.
     
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    Never used/other reasons.

    Biggest reason is that I haven't really actively pursued a relationship. I feel like there are issues in my life that need to be fixed, first.

    Past that, I think I prefer the idea of meeting people in other circumstances. That gives a chance for real world observation, plus perhaps to start as friends.

    My enthusiasm for dating websites has also decreased since joining EC simply because I've heard the horror stories about many of the people using those sites.
     
  13. Wuggums47

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    I'm hearing a lot of people say people on dating sites only want sex, but then how do you meet other gay people who want love? I mean most other places I would also associate with just for sex.
     
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    Well one could go someplace where there will be other LGBT people, and that place some other focus than dating or sex. For example, one might go to a LGBT book discussion group.
     
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    You can log on the sites for free but you end up with charges to talk with someone and I've seen that they have fake profiles. I've seen it on tv
     
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    I agree with you that if you want something serious or not even serious but something that exclude sex, you will probably regret and you will just waste your time as you said.

    I'm sorry that's my mistake but I thought if I have written "use" that it's understandable that it is in the present so I apologize. :icon_sad:

    Really?! I haven't heard about that but as you could assume everywhere exists fake profiles so you can't be 100 percent sure whether they are real of fake.
     
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    I haven't used them because I've heard it's dangerous to meet someone you don't actually know.
     
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    OP: Okay my post didn't make sense at all, I was reading it now and it is very hard to understand.
    The point was that what I thought was wrong with the first option wasn't that it's in the present tense, it's the "and I have only good memories" clause. :slight_smile:
     
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    I agree with kem (ex-Morphim?) about answering the poll - I can't. Still use them every now and then but I can't say it's been a success for me. But it's nice when I'm bored.

    I've had some half decent conversations there so it's not just sex, but I try to ignore people who are just there to hook up.
     
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    I'm on a dating site, but I don't see very many people I like. I'm depressed, so I doubt anyone will like me anyways.