Promiscuity

I'm not saying it's wrong, but I hate how the straight community winds up putting me and others who aren't interested in casual sex in the same bucket. Like, if that's what you want to do, that's absolutely okay, but I don't want to be categorized in the same manner.

 

I will never call it "wrong," but it's just not something I'm apt to participate in.


My guess as to why there's such an oppositional attitude toward it, is that the overwhelming presence of the hookup culture in the community gets people who do not want to participate in it feeling very dejected regarding the potential of their finding an "actual relationship."

 

I think the top reason would be that some one is looking for love not a fling
but also with casual sex you take alot of risks like contracting a disease or having a crazy attached to you. Plus alot of people believe that sex is something special that is only meant to be done with someone special to you

 

I don't think that it's wrong. However, I've found that I get labelled as a slut because of all the little teeny girls pretending they're bi and kissing other girls just for male attention. It's very frustrating for me, because I'm not that way.

It can give a negative association for people in the same community, because people assume that it's because of your sexuality, when it has nothing to do with that. I'm bi, but I don't feel right being with a guy and a girl at the same time, just because I'm bi.

I think it's all dependent on what the people in the relationship feel. If both parties agree to it, then that's great. Go for it.

 

Well from my experience many straight people have a stereotypic belief that homosexuals cannot and do not have monogamous relationships, that we all just sleep around and that homosexuality is all about casual sex with many different people.

I dont know where they got that idea from, but that's why many gay people feel like they have to say things like " just because I'm doesnt mean I have to sleep around."
It has less to do with you, as it does with that annoying prevalent stereotype they've probably been confronted with in the past.

I dont think it's right to call anyone a slut though, nor do I think it's wrong.
May I ask where you live?
Because where I live it seems that most young people, gay and straight are actually looking for casual sex rather than long-term relationships, so few seem to have a problem with it.

 

If someone called me a slut, I'd be complimented. If some boring, uptight prude insults me, I'm always flattered.

 

I was playing TERA yesterday and saw someone announce on global chat that "gay guys are sluttier than women."

That statement annoys me because it shames promiscuous people. Why should they be shamed for being in any relationship with informed consent? It doesn't harm anyone, so just let them do as they please without ridicule.

 

ppl wanna do anything they can idgaf as long as it is all consented and legal and not shady and none of that grey area gray black market shit

 

I interpret promiscuity as a narcissist's best pastime!

There are forms of narcissism that are really quite horrible, but promiscuity allows the "good" narcissist to try out a few roles with different people and examine his or her self reflected in each one of them (people are always different with different people, hence the narcissist makes his or her self an excellent and fascinating subject to study within these different "relationships", for lack of a better term).

What does the promiscuous narcissist discover? That the self he or she is so absorbed with doesn't really have a core foundation (he or she is so different with so many people, so who is the real person underneath it all???)! He or she may soon discover that there really isn't all that much about a mysterious "self" to be fascinated about, and may begin to come out of his or her self-absorbed shell to look away from all these reflections and learn to love...for narcissism is essentially the absence of love.

As long as the sex is practiced safely, moral judgments about this behaviour between consenting adults is misplaced. Promiscuity could be a phase or a lifestyle. Not one I myself necessarily would want for the long term...but really, enough with the "slut" slur!

 

Because even within the queer community there are some very judgemental people.

 

I have seen the opposite and met a few people in the lgbt community that think of sex as nothing but a hand shake . I don't see anything wrong if you just want to have causal sex but one thing I cannot stand in the lgbt community is they act like bisexuals are the only ones that have causal sex and straight , gay , and lesbian people don't do it and it's just like them promiscuous bisexuals over there and there the only ones that hook up with people and the rest of us straight , gay , and lesbian are only about relationships . I find it very offense .
Some people still believe to this day that there aren't any lesbians or gay men that have causal sex with other lesbians and gay men it's just ridiculous . As long as their having safe sex it shouldn't be a big deal

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Honestly I can't stand straight women that do that and i have spoken to a few and they still see no harm in it that it facts the bi community and they don't even care and it's sad .

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My mom thinks this too and thinks being a lesbian or a gay man is just all about sex she calls it a vice and to her we're just little sex monsters , like we don't experience love it's just sex sex . she calls being gay or lesbian a sickness and when you have a demon in you that makes you gay .

 

For me, I would only have one GF at a time, but I don't care how other people live their life. I guess you could say I am completely neutral to it. :3

 

Well, let's see.

I don't think it's smart-the more promiscuous you are, the more likely you are to catch a disease. I worked as a pharmacy technician many, many years ago, and as a Child Support prosecutor many moons ago, and I CANNOT tell you the number of instances where people practiced "safe sex" and either ended up fathering a kid or having a kid, or some type of venereal disease.

Two. I dunno. I don't view sex as some random thing. I can masturbate if I want sexual release, but being intimate with someone is well, incredibly intimate and just something I don't take lightly.

I do find it odd on this board that there's such a judgment AGAINST people who aren't really into sleeping with different people. I mean, you do your thing, and I'll do my thing. Honestly, just because I'm a lesbian it doesn't mean I should view sex in a specific way, or that I'm parochial or narrow-minded if I'm not for free love.

 

It's not my place to tell people what to do with their bodies, especially in the bedroom, so I really couldn't care less about people having casual sex.

As long as they are not hurting others either physically or emotionally, then what they do in their own time with people of their choosing us there prerogative.

Happy days

 

I agree with this and what you said here .
I have no problem with people who are promiscuous but for me promiscuity does not work and I prefer only having sex with someone I'm in a relationship with .

 

The word "judgment" is neutral though. Just because one prefers one position over the other or finds that one position is more correct than the other, it does not follow that I am expressing "disapproval" on moral grounds. Alternatively, you can have a perfectly valid position, and I can have an equally valid, if not opposite position on the same topic; it does not mean that there's opprobrium on anyone's part.

If you are not judging me negatively for having a position that is opposite of yours, why do you seek to "get people to rethink their judgmental attitude towards it?" You are also implying that "practical concerns," or "reasons why people are not into casual sex," are not as valid as "logical arguments."

 

I don't like casual sex for myself but I have a live and let live attitude