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why do some gay guys have casual sex with women occasionally?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by jackson thomas, Jul 17, 2014.

  1. jackson thomas

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    i wonder why?is this an act supporting anti gays who say" look they can enjoy sex with women but they choose to be gay"?
     
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    Not to be rude, but you've made about 6 different threads in the last couple of hours all pretty much asking the same question. If you have a lot of questions that is absolutely fair enough but they're all basically similar/the same so you could easily lump it all into one post and just have one thread rather than making multiple in such a short space of time.

    Anyway, that out of the way, I'm going to answer your question. I very much doubt that many gay men would want to support anti-gays in any way so no, I think you're wrong on that count.
    Some of them may not be aware that they're gay yet, some may be questioning, some may simply be attracted to men but not actually be gay. Just because a man is attracted to another man does not mean he identifies as gay, he may be bi or pansexual.

    Also, sexuality is fluid. You may well say you're gay but find the occasional member of the opposite sex attractive and want to be with them. There is not always a black and white way to define sexuality.
     
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    Because their bi and not actually gay
     
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    *sigh* another one? These are all fair questions, but you can compile them in one thread plus their getting a little repetitive
     
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    Also what she said :dry:
     
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    (ignoring that you have been spamming this forum with these threads)

    I can't imagine any man that had regular casual sex with women would identify as gay, unless he was intentionally lying about it.
     
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    or in denial too about it or actually bi but didn't want his gay buddies to know or in denial about that too .
    I'm with Browncoat on this one
     
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    Because like the person above me said, they're probably in denial and want to prove to their buddies that they're straight and not gay.
     
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    Lets not forget that sex is apart of nature and imo can be a fun and curious expedition for even a lesbian/gay guy to have sex with eachother, NSA of course. But it doesnt equate to the sex you will have from someone you like.

    OP if you spam with another thread, instead of answering your current ones, i will notify a moderator. The answer is goingto be the same you need to accept yourself
     
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    because they like it
     
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    More often that not, they're bisexual, especially if past the age and phase of trying to prove themselves for whatever reason. I know some gay guys who simply can't function sexually with women, meaning they cite being unable to get aroused. The sex can be pleasurable because the body parts fit and if they have a goodbody and sometimes it is not pleasurable, even to the point that no sex, or taking matters into your own hands, is better than bad sex. The real problem is the mindfuck (being clingy or putting on a guilt trip of being owed something) that usually comes before and after the sex, and sometimes even during the sex. A mindfuck is a guarantee that I will be taking a hike and already know I will be doing so.
     
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    They do not like it sexually. maybe emotionally. You are showing no progress in accepting yourself. see a therapist!
     
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    Jackson and Jaxon have remarkably similar manners of expression! I'm assuming identical twins? ^.^
     
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    Are you talking about gay guys who do it because it's socially accepted and they don't want to be gay ?

    Because I don't get why they not like it sexually but still do it , that's like putting your hand in firer and saying you don't like getting burned and doing it again .
    But maybe some don't know there gay ? or are trying to be straight that could also be part of it .
     
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    Maybe they're trying to turn themselves straight or bi. That's the reason why I dated a guy I wasn't attracted to.
     
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    It could also be the other way around. Just saying.
     
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    Lol, you think the mods don't ALREADY see this? C'mon...

    OP you're getting hung up. Chillax. You don't need to discover yourself all at the same time. Rome wasn't built in a day.

    There may be bisexual guys who are mostly gay and therefore regard themselves as gay, but do enjoy an occasional or fleeting fling with a female.

    Thw best way to answer ALL of your threads at once, is to not apply rigid concrete boundries to sexuality. Once you remove the boundries and blur the lines, it's easier to see fringe sexuality in the works.
     
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    I'm not gonna lie...vaginas do feel good. So there's that.
     
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    I heard they're better than ass
     
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    Actually......

    It all comes down to personal preference.
    Most arse is much tighter, but it just doesn't lubricate itself, that's a very practical fact about vags. :lol:
    So cunts are easier to use (Oh dear, that sounds horrible, I'm sorry!), but I'd say regarding the actual pleasure they give, arse has a slight advantage due to tightness. Always depends on the person of course. A disadvantage of arse is that licking it is a very reserved taste, compared to licking cunt...

    And now I'm just rambling.
    Gosh.
     
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