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Are you a good liar?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by HM03, Jul 18, 2014.

  1. HM03

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    Despite lying about being gay for so long, I'm a terrible liar :lol:

    Is there any connect between concealing your sexuality/ gender identity and being a good liar? Just curious :grin:
     
  2. asdfghjk

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    NO *sweats profusely*
     
  3. alwaysforever

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    I am absolutely horrible at it. Unfortunately it also means I am not very good at keeping secrets. When I end up with a secret, I end up isolating myself so that I don't blurt it out. I do it to protect people, but sometimes they think I don't care. Nothing could be farther from the truth. I care way too much.
     
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    I'm a pretty good actress, and yet I'm a terrible liar. I either start smiling, or try too hard to cover it up.
     
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    I just think I don't see the point in lying so when people ask me a question, I end up telling the truth but for some reason I can hold a secret because I either forget what you tell me or I'm just a really good friend.
     
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    I can lie. But I do it extremely rarely. Lying is rarely worth it. I only do it when there's a moral reason. Not just out of morality, but being practical, it's easy to lose trust and be branded as a liar if you're not honest.

    Lies quickly catch up to you. Reality exists. Lies are only what you create. Unless you're able to tamper with what you're lying about to create an adulterated truth, then it stands as clear evidence against your lie. It's not practical to lie if you can use the truth, even if only selectively.

    One thing I've lied about is a friend's sexuality. He came out to me as bi well before anyone else. I kept the secret for him. People asked me (they either suspected his asexuality or bisexuality, odd combination of guesses, I know), and I just laughed it off as "who knows." Or just shrugged it off as something I didn't know. When he came out, lying was perfectly acceptable and people understood. Secrets are a different thing, morally. Not to mention that holding someone else's secret is something I hold very, very important if it doesn't hurt anyone. I will lie to others if someone tells me a secret I know I should keep for them.

    Lying damages trust. Trust is something I wouldn't want to live without, even if lying isn't that hard to get away with at the time of the lie.

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    This was supposed to be whether I can or not. And I just went on a ramble about the morality of lying. :lol: Sorry.
     
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    Umm... I am an awesome liar. Yeah. So good...
     
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    To those who don't know me well, yes I am. =P
     
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    I'm an excellent liar, but I hate lying. The secret? Believe your own bullshit!
     
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    I don't have to lie very often but if I need to then yes. I'm not the kind of person that people would suspect of lying or being deceitful anyways, so it's especially easy. I don't like lying though.
     
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    Yes. But it's because I rarely do. It's a lot of work and upkeep. If I do lie, I make sure:

    A) Its for a valid, purposeful reason

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    B) it's not a blatant lie (in favor for a half truth or omission).
     
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    Duh.

    I work in politics.
     
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    When its really, REALLY necessary then I lie. I believe I'm good at it.
     
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    I'm good at avoiding a question or the partially-telling-the-truth-partially-a-lie thing, but when I have to say a complete lie, I'm terrible at it.
     
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    I think I'm pretty good at it, but it doesn't happen very much. Luckily, my life isn't full of them.
     
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    I'm the worst liar
    It may be because I hate to lie
    I get guilty looks in my face when I lie.
    Dead giveaway
     
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    I'm a HORRIBLE liar. I think partly because I can't help but to feel guilty when I do it, so I think that always shines through and makes me fumble. I try to avoid lying in general, but I also realize there are situations in which it's necessary.
     
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    I'm an incredible liar. I don't think I am, but the the bull**** I've pulled of, even to the people who know me best, I must be pretty good I guess. : P
     
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    Yes, extremely good, in fact. I combine quick thinking, a good memory with an apparently low tendency to the biological manifestations of guilt and anxiety. That said, I don't do it much. I used to, but I don't like it.

    Another thing in my favour, I suppose, is that I don't bother with evasions. If I'm trying to lie, I'll say it precisely the way I would if it were true, without using an odd choice of words that gets me around having technically lied. It's still deception, just effective. I always notice when someone uses an evasive choice of words, so I figure everyone else would too.

    ---------- Post added 19th Jul 2014 at 09:28 AM ----------

    That banapple has terrible grammar.
     
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    If what I'm lying about is done so to protect me or to protect a hidden truth (sexuality), then I'm determined to lie well and so I do.

    If it's friend-jokeful things like pranks or something, I usually laugh at their reactions and straight away after I say no, "oh my god it was you!"