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Shrug · 31st Aug 2008, 04:38 PM

so people always tell me that i chose to be gay, and i tell them the only coice i made waz coming out!!!

although im very proud of who i am, i used to think life woud be so much better if i was straight.

so heres my question kuz im curious to know: if you had a choice on being gay or straight what would you pick???

personally i would still be gay!!!

**Lexington** · 31st Aug 2008, 05:21 PM

At the outset, I probably would've picked straight. It seemed like the easier path. Now that I know what's in store, I'd stick with gay.

Lex

ccdd · 31st Aug 2008, 05:46 PM

I'd be straight. Yeah, I still have some way to go

shakerdancee · 31st Aug 2008, 06:49 PM

I think honestly being gay has made me a stronger and smarter person...

**Victor** · 31st Aug 2008, 06:59 PM

After finally accepting being gay not too long ago, I find that I really like that part of myself. Sure, I know that I still have many problems with myself as a whole, but I really don't think that being straight is right for me. Gay all the way.

NathanHaleFan · 31st Aug 2008, 07:12 PM

Being gay has made me me. I don't f*** with me.

31st Aug 2008, 10:29 PM

I think I would be a different person if I wasnt gay cause Ive learnt few things from being one.
If you think it as the game difficulties, maybe straight would be easy and gay would be the harder one.

Wander · 1st Sep 2008, 01:04 AM

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Originally Posted by shakerdancee

I think honestly being gay has made me a stronger and smarter person...

That. I won't go too far into it, but because of the things I've experienced due to my sexuality, I feel like a much more perceptive and intelligent person. It's been tougher, but much more interesting. I'm already bored most of the time, I don't what I would do if I were straight. I'm fine the way I am.

**Maddy** · 1st Sep 2008, 02:12 AM

If I'd been asked this a few years ago, I'd have said straight. Now I'd say I'd stick with being gay. I've met some wonderful people (through EC and other sites) I'd probably never have met otherwise, and I've spent so much time thinking about sexuality that I think I've turned out a lot wiser than I would be otherwise.

hoping · 1st Sep 2008, 02:25 AM

Id definitley pick gay.

**Gerry** · 1st Sep 2008, 02:36 AM

lexie · 1st Sep 2008, 04:56 AM

i hate when people say you 'choose' to be gay. what total BS. you cant choose or control what you feel.

id stick with who i am. i do want a kid eventually though, so im thinking it would be easier from that standpoint, to be straight, but anyway, no, i'll figure it out, and i would stay as i am.

-Michael- · 1st Sep 2008, 05:06 AM

GAY!!!

Women are fucking lunatics...

tomersh · 1st Sep 2008, 05:12 AM

i agree with you....if i had the choice from the start i would've probably gone with straight since it's the easier way...but now it's hard for me to think of me as being straight....i like this part of me...i really do..

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Originally Posted by NightDreamer

After finally accepting being gay not too long ago, I find that I really like that part of myself. Sure, I know that I still have many problems with myself as a whole, but I really don't think that being straight is right for me. Gay all the way.

interstella · 1st Sep 2008, 09:08 AM

I wouldn't become straight. Boys are too sexy

1st Sep 2008, 09:13 AM

I wouldn't have the friends I have now if I wasn't gay. They (girls) felt comfortable around me the first time of meeting me, and I'm pretty sure it's because they know I flirt with them without it going more than just flirting.

If I was straight, then I would've had different friends, and I really don't want that. I love my current friends and family more than anything else. And I want to keep it that way.

The only perks of being straight are, in my opinion, I wouldn't have to worry about the coming out process and it wouldn't be hard to find someone to be in a relationship (you'd normally just go straight to the "does she like me or not?" Gays have to go and find out if he's gay or not (and it's SO incredibly hard) to "does he like me or not?"

Miles D · 1st Sep 2008, 09:16 AM

I would probably still be bi, but NOT transgender. it sucks balls.

420inc · 1st Sep 2008, 10:03 AM

It's taken me a long time but I wouldn't change who I am for anything. I love being gay and everything that comes with it. When I was younger I might have changed myself, but only to fit in more. Now-a-days, I don't care what other people think. If you don't like me or who I am then go away lol.

**Martin** · 1st Sep 2008, 10:06 AM

Gayyyy.

**Owen** · 1st Sep 2008, 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by -Michael-

GAY!!!

Women are fucking lunatics...

Agreed.

Anyways, gay, because it has made me a stronger person and given me a new perspective on life. Now that I've gone throught the self-discovery and coming out stages, the worst is over, so why go back now?

31st Aug 2008, 04:38 PM	#1
Shrug Shrug Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: tulsa, oklahoma Age: 19 Posts: 96 Join Date: Aug 2008	if you had a choice so people always tell me that i chose to be gay, and i tell them the only coice i made waz coming out!!! although im very proud of who i am, i used to think life woud be so much better if i was straight. so heres my question kuz im curious to know: if you had a choice on being gay or straight what would you pick??? personally i would still be gay!!!

31st Aug 2008, 05:21 PM	#2
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: if you had a choice At the outset, I probably would've picked straight. It seemed like the easier path. Now that I know what's in store, I'd stick with gay. Lex

31st Aug 2008, 05:46 PM	#3
ccdd Procrastination Queen Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 30(ish) friends, but mostly closeted. Out to mum Location: UK Posts: 1,009 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: if you had a choice I'd be straight. Yeah, I still have some way to go

31st Aug 2008, 06:49 PM	#4
shakerdancee Oom-pah! Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not sure Out Status: Anyone who asks Location: California Age: 19 Posts: 304 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: if you had a choice I think honestly being gay has made me a stronger and smarter person...

31st Aug 2008, 06:59 PM	#5
Victor Moo EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Pretty damn out Location: California Age: 21 Posts: 1,970 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: if you had a choice After finally accepting being gay not too long ago, I find that I really like that part of myself. Sure, I know that I still have many problems with myself as a whole, but I really don't think that being straight is right for me. Gay all the way.

31st Aug 2008, 07:12 PM	#6
NathanHaleFan de omnibus dubitandum Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: New Jersey Age: 20 Posts: 166 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: if you had a choice Being gay has made me me. I don't f*** with me. __________________ We have common sense occasionally; occasionally you see it and you go, "LOOK! There is is." And then it's gone. --Lewis Black

31st Aug 2008, 10:29 PM	#7
smilealways Guest Posts: n/a	Re: if you had a choice I think I would be a different person if I wasnt gay cause Ive learnt few things from being one. If you think it as the game difficulties, maybe straight would be easy and gay would be the harder one.

1st Sep 2008, 02:12 AM	#9
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,700 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: if you had a choice If I'd been asked this a few years ago, I'd have said straight. Now I'd say I'd stick with being gay. I've met some wonderful people (through EC and other sites) I'd probably never have met otherwise, and I've spent so much time thinking about sexuality that I think I've turned out a lot wiser than I would be otherwise. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

1st Sep 2008, 02:25 AM	#10
hoping EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: australia Age: 23 Posts: 527 Join Date: May 2007	Re: if you had a choice Id definitley pick gay. __________________ On to canada in 2012

1st Sep 2008, 02:36 AM	#11
Gerry We're all a little mad! EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Las Vegas Age: 24 Posts: 5,542 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: if you had a choice Gay. __________________ "Everybody's journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality".-James Baldwin

1st Sep 2008, 04:56 AM	#12
lexie Member Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Not sure (still trying to figure it out) Posts: 96 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: if you had a choice i hate when people say you 'choose' to be gay. what total BS. you cant choose or control what you feel. id stick with who i am. i do want a kid eventually though, so im thinking it would be easier from that standpoint, to be straight, but anyway, no, i'll figure it out, and i would stay as i am.

1st Sep 2008, 05:06 AM	#13
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: if you had a choice GAY!!! Women are fucking lunatics...

1st Sep 2008, 09:08 AM	#15
interstella Don't call me GaGa... Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: Queer Out Status: Everyone Location: London, UK Age: 18 Posts: 700 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: if you had a choice I wouldn't become straight. Boys are too sexy __________________ Lesbian? Gay? Bisexual? Transgender? Queer? Whatever.

1st Sep 2008, 09:13 AM	#16
GunStarre Guest Posts: n/a	Re: if you had a choice I wouldn't have the friends I have now if I wasn't gay. They (girls) felt comfortable around me the first time of meeting me, and I'm pretty sure it's because they know I flirt with them without it going more than just flirting. If I was straight, then I would've had different friends, and I really don't want that. I love my current friends and family more than anything else. And I want to keep it that way. The only perks of being straight are, in my opinion, I wouldn't have to worry about the coming out process and it wouldn't be hard to find someone to be in a relationship (you'd normally just go straight to the "does she like me or not?" Gays have to go and find out if he's gay or not (and it's SO incredibly hard) to "does he like me or not?"

1st Sep 2008, 09:16 AM	#17
Miles D Rude... and not ginger. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: queer Out Status: everyone Location: San Diego, CA ⇒ Great Barrington, MA Age: 20 Posts: 1,171 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: if you had a choice I would probably still be bi, but NOT transgender. it sucks balls. __________________ Bowties are cool. Fezzes are cool.

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1st Sep 2008, 10:03 AM	#18
420inc Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out 2 family, new friends, @work, not old friends. Location: Coeur d'Alene, Idaho Age: 34 Posts: 15 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: if you had a choice It's taken me a long time but I wouldn't change who I am for anything. I love being gay and everything that comes with it. When I was younger I might have changed myself, but only to fit in more. Now-a-days, I don't care what other people think. If you don't like me or who I am then go away lol.

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Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,038 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: if you had a choice Gayyyy. __________________ The blue whale ejaculates up to 40 gallons during sexual intercourse, but only 10 gallons enters the female. Do you still wonder why the sea tastes salty?