What do you like in a guy? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Antidoll · 1st Sep 2008, 01:37 PM

Well. the question is not as simple as that...

have you changed your " type " that you're attracted to throughout the years? I know when I was in elementary I used to focus on a different kind of "beauty" and it was different for me who's hot and who's not...

now it's way different, which is normal..

so what kind of guy you like? what do you search for in a guy? personality and physically wise...

you don't have to get into raunchy details... but you could just give a general idea

**Martin** · 1st Sep 2008, 01:46 PM

Physically somebody who is different in a good way. Not somebody who wants to conform just to please anybody they are around. They need to care about their appearance but not to the point it is obsessive and they spend a ridiculous amount of time doing so, and they should not be put off by what other peeps think of them.

Personality wise I like shy peeps who only really open up to you when they feel comfortable around you. That way you know for sure that they are comfortable around you. They have to be trustworthy too and not interested in just getting whatever they can and then buggering off to somebody else. Being affectionate and romantic is a bonus too.

They also need to have a good sense of humor and take things in a light-hearted way, but also need to know when to switch off and be serious.

Hmmm, I have this narrowed down way too much.

interstella · 1st Sep 2008, 02:35 PM

Martin, you have just described my ideal man.

I am a hopeless romantic :P.

Paul_UK · 1st Sep 2008, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Martin

Physically somebody who is different in a good way. Not somebody who wants to conform just to please anybody they are around. They need to care about their appearance but not to the point it is obsessive and they spend a ridiculous amount of time doing so, and they should not be put off by what other peeps think of them.

Personality wise I like shy peeps who only really open up to you when they feel comfortable around you. That way you know for sure that they are comfortable around you. They have to be trustworthy too and not interested in just getting whatever they can and then buggering off to somebody else. Being affectionate and romantic is a bonus too.

They also need to have a good sense of humor and take things in a light-hearted way, but also need to know when to switch off and be serious.

Hmmm, I have this narrowed down way too much.

No, that sounds very much what I like too. Especially the personality.

-Michael- · 1st Sep 2008, 03:26 PM

Physically. they don't have to anything special. They sould take care of how they look.
Looking slobbenly is attractive to none.

Personality, someone who is remotely educated; in the sense that an actual conversation about something serious. someone who actually listens to what ive got to say, my conversation tends to stray off into realms totally unrelated to the subject, but someone who will try to understand and not just ummm and aahhh to shut me up.
Also i would like someone who knows the limits of being cheesy.
Being romantic and gentlemanly is should come naturally, but sayign "babe" all the time or "sexy" is just wierd for both of us, and the people around.

I'd like someone who confident, unlike martin. Im a shy person myself so i think another shy person will just get the small talk with me and then we'd lose interest.
Also someone completely random and spontaneous.
Someone who will just quit their days plan because it turns out theres a Kubrick film fest on TV XD aha

I havnt thought too much into this

...aha

=D

**Gerry** · 1st Sep 2008, 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Martin

Physically somebody who is different in a good way. Not somebody who wants to conform just to please anybody they are around. They need to care about their appearance but not to the point it is obsessive and they spend a ridiculous amount of time doing so, and they should not be put off by what other peeps think of them.

Personality wise I like shy peeps who only really open up to you when they feel comfortable around you. That way you know for sure that they are comfortable around you. They have to be trustworthy too and not interested in just getting whatever they can and then buggering off to somebody else. Being affectionate and romantic is a bonus too.

They also need to have a good sense of humor and take things in a light-hearted way, but also need to know when to switch off and be serious.

Hmmm, I have this narrowed down way too much.

Lol. I guess Martin can read minds.

Mine is very similar.

Daniel · 1st Sep 2008, 03:52 PM

So long as they groom themselves properly I don't really have a specific look I am going for.

However, the personality is important. They have to be very extroverted. Traveling and animals are important along with music. If the person is over opinionated I will dislike them.

Swamp56 · 1st Sep 2008, 03:54 PM

Martin kind of hit the nail on the head for my ideal person :S .

**Lexington** · 1st Sep 2008, 04:01 PM

I'd tell you, but I'd be kicked off the site.

When I was younger, I liked muscles and hair a lot. Now hair doesn't do a thing for me, and muscles are just an added bonus. Personality, openness, self-acceptance are much more important.

Lex

Shrug · 1st Sep 2008, 04:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martin

Physically somebody who is different in a good way. Not somebody who wants to conform just to please anybody they are around. They need to care about their appearance but not to the point it is obsessive and they spend a ridiculous amount of time doing so, and they should not be put off by what other peeps think of them.

Personality wise I like shy peeps who only really open up to you when they feel comfortable around you. That way you know for sure that they are comfortable around you. They have to be trustworthy too and not interested in just getting whatever they can and then buggering off to somebody else. Being affectionate and romantic is a bonus too.

They also need to have a good sense of humor and take things in a light-hearted way, but also need to know when to switch off and be serious.

wow thts lyk my exact definition of a perfect guy!!! humor is a real biggy 4 me, i luv 2 laugh and make ppl laugh!!!

1st Sep 2008, 05:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martin

Physically somebody who is different in a good way. Not somebody who wants to conform just to please anybody they are around. They need to care about their appearance but not to the point it is obsessive and they spend a ridiculous amount of time doing so, and they should not be put off by what other peeps think of them.

Personality wise I like shy peeps who only really open up to you when they feel comfortable around you. That way you know for sure that they are comfortable around you. They have to be trustworthy too and not interested in just getting whatever they can and then buggering off to somebody else. Being affectionate and romantic is a bonus too.

They also need to have a good sense of humor and take things in a light-hearted way, but also need to know when to switch off and be serious.

Hmmm, I have this narrowed down way too much.

I think this answer should be universally accepted. Nice job Martin, thats what my answer looks like too

ccdd · 1st Sep 2008, 05:28 PM

Yeah, Martin nailed a lot of it on the head for me too! (although in my case I'd be surprised if they weren't physically different...)

I also very very much like a bit of stubble - you know, a bit of sexy facial hair

But I'm not fussy - they just have to be a nice person

ausdtc · 1st Sep 2008, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by ccdd

Yeah, Martin nailed a lot of it on the head for me too! (although in my case I'd be surprised if they weren't physically different...)

I also very very much like a bit of stubble - you know, a bit of sexy facial hair

But I'm not fussy - they just have to be a nice person

Agreed, especially on having a bit of facial hair! Physically a lot of different guys do it for me actually, not really a specific type that I've narrowed down yet!

**Owen** · 1st Sep 2008, 06:48 PM

Physically, I like guys who carry a few extra pounds (well, more than a few

) and have stubble on their (double) chin, kind of like Seth Rogen's beard. If they aren't chubby, then I can still find a guy very hot if he has very long hair. I just won't find him erotically hot.

Personality wise, I like someone who is a bit socially akward (like myself), not interested in sex, plays video games, is intelligent, and is sure of his opinions, meaning he doesn't flip flop, but will still change them for a good reason. Wow, that pretty much describes my boyfriend. (The personality part, at least.)

-Michael- · 1st Sep 2008, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Gamer am I

Physically, I like guys who carry a few extra pounds (well, more than a few

) and have stubble on their (double) chin, kind of like Seth Rogen's beard. If they aren't chubby, then I can still find a guy very hot if he has very long hair. I just won't find him erotically hot.

Personality wise, I like someone who is a bit socially akward (like myself), not interested in sex, plays video games, is intelligent, and is sure of his opinions, meaning he doesn't flip flop, but will still change them for a good reason. Wow, that pretty much describes my boyfriend. (The personality part, at least.)

so totally wierded out right now...

aha

-Michael- · 1st Sep 2008, 07:17 PM

I Want Someone Who Smokes So I Can Start Again!!!!!!!

Antidoll · 1st Sep 2008, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by -Michael-

I Want Someone Who Smokes So I Can Start Again!!!!!!!

...

smoking is bad for you...

-Michael- · 1st Sep 2008, 07:39 PM

I DONT CARE IM CHOOOOKING FOR A TAB....

i only give up becuase it makes me look unsociable.

Wander · 1st Sep 2008, 07:40 PM

At the very core, a level of seriousness. Part of the reason why I find so few people in my age group attractive is because of how loud and abrasive they are. People talk too damn much, especially the people I'm surrounded by.

Antidoll · 1st Sep 2008, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by -Michael-

I DONT CARE IM CHOOOOKING FOR A TAB....

i only give up becuase it makes me look unsociable.

... so you don't care if you get cancer and die by the age of 25...

that's nice. go ahead smoke. I'm sorry, didn't know your into kimo and losing your body hair and not be able to live normally for at least a year and get operated many times to remove the tumor...

but yea...

1st Sep 2008, 01:37 PM	#1
Antidoll Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 31 Join Date: Aug 2008	What do you like in a guy? Well. the question is not as simple as that... have you changed your " type " that you're attracted to throughout the years? I know when I was in elementary I used to focus on a different kind of "beauty" and it was different for me who's hot and who's not... now it's way different, which is normal.. so what kind of guy you like? what do you search for in a guy? personality and physically wise... you don't have to get into raunchy details... but you could just give a general idea __________________

1st Sep 2008, 01:46 PM	#2
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,038 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: What do you like in a guy? Physically somebody who is different in a good way. Not somebody who wants to conform just to please anybody they are around. They need to care about their appearance but not to the point it is obsessive and they spend a ridiculous amount of time doing so, and they should not be put off by what other peeps think of them. Personality wise I like shy peeps who only really open up to you when they feel comfortable around you. That way you know for sure that they are comfortable around you. They have to be trustworthy too and not interested in just getting whatever they can and then buggering off to somebody else. Being affectionate and romantic is a bonus too. They also need to have a good sense of humor and take things in a light-hearted way, but also need to know when to switch off and be serious. Hmmm, I have this narrowed down way too much. __________________ The blue whale ejaculates up to 40 gallons during sexual intercourse, but only 10 gallons enters the female. Do you still wonder why the sea tastes salty?

1st Sep 2008, 02:35 PM	#3
interstella Don't call me GaGa... Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: Queer Out Status: Everyone Location: London, UK Age: 18 Posts: 700 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: What do you like in a guy? Martin, you have just described my ideal man. I am a hopeless romantic :P. __________________ Lesbian? Gay? Bisexual? Transgender? Queer? Whatever.

1st Sep 2008, 03:26 PM	#5
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: What do you like in a guy? Physically. they don't have to anything special. They sould take care of how they look. Looking slobbenly is attractive to none. Personality, someone who is remotely educated; in the sense that an actual conversation about something serious. someone who actually listens to what ive got to say, my conversation tends to stray off into realms totally unrelated to the subject, but someone who will try to understand and not just ummm and aahhh to shut me up. Also i would like someone who knows the limits of being cheesy. Being romantic and gentlemanly is should come naturally, but sayign "babe" all the time or "sexy" is just wierd for both of us, and the people around. I'd like someone who confident, unlike martin. Im a shy person myself so i think another shy person will just get the small talk with me and then we'd lose interest. Also someone completely random and spontaneous. Someone who will just quit their days plan because it turns out theres a Kubrick film fest on TV XD aha I havnt thought too much into this...aha =D

1st Sep 2008, 03:52 PM	#7
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: What do you like in a guy? So long as they groom themselves properly I don't really have a specific look I am going for. However, the personality is important. They have to be very extroverted. Traveling and animals are important along with music. If the person is over opinionated I will dislike them. __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

1st Sep 2008, 03:54 PM	#8
Swamp56 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Boston, MA Age: 21 Posts: 2,166 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: What do you like in a guy? Martin kind of hit the nail on the head for my ideal person :S .

1st Sep 2008, 04:01 PM	#9
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: What do you like in a guy? I'd tell you, but I'd be kicked off the site. When I was younger, I liked muscles and hair a lot. Now hair doesn't do a thing for me, and muscles are just an added bonus. Personality, openness, self-acceptance are much more important. Lex

1st Sep 2008, 05:28 PM	#12
ccdd Procrastination Queen Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 30(ish) friends, but mostly closeted. Out to mum Location: UK Posts: 1,009 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: What do you like in a guy? Yeah, Martin nailed a lot of it on the head for me too! (although in my case I'd be surprised if they weren't physically different...) I also very very much like a bit of stubble - you know, a bit of sexy facial hair But I'm not fussy - they just have to be a nice person

1st Sep 2008, 06:48 PM	#14
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,869 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: What do you like in a guy? Physically, I like guys who carry a few extra pounds (well, more than a few ) and have stubble on their (double) chin, kind of like Seth Rogen's beard. If they aren't chubby, then I can still find a guy very hot if he has very long hair. I just won't find him erotically hot. Personality wise, I like someone who is a bit socially akward (like myself), not interested in sex, plays video games, is intelligent, and is sure of his opinions, meaning he doesn't flip flop, but will still change them for a good reason. Wow, that pretty much describes my boyfriend. (The personality part, at least.) __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

1st Sep 2008, 07:17 PM	#16
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: What do you like in a guy? I Want Someone Who Smokes So I Can Start Again!!!!!!!

1st Sep 2008, 07:39 PM	#18
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: What do you like in a guy? I DONT CARE IM CHOOOOKING FOR A TAB.... i only give up becuase it makes me look unsociable.

1st Sep 2008, 07:40 PM	#19
Wander Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Parents, aunts, grandma, counselor, online friends Location: Central Alabama Age: 18 Posts: 2,360 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: What do you like in a guy? At the very core, a level of seriousness. Part of the reason why I find so few people in my age group attractive is because of how loud and abrasive they are. People talk too damn much, especially the people I'm surrounded by.