Is being gay a downfall?

...Downfall?
Downfall: 1. a sudden loss of power, happiness, success, etc.
2. something that causes failure
I wouldn't say so, no.

All joking aside, it's only a handicap if people hate you for it. Even if someone does not support gay marriage, it doesn't automatically make them hateful. Misguided? Probably. But hateful? Not necessarily.

 

In my country the biggest problem with being gay is not homophobia, it's that the majority of the sex your attracted to is straight. If I get a bf in future then being gay will cease to be a problem.

 

No, not even remotely. There's discrimination, certainly, and a great many people suffer for it. But we aren't intrinsically inferior.

 

Whether gay or straight, rich or poor; if I am true to myself, I am a better person.

 

For me being gay is only a downfall if I trip over :icon_bigg

 

Because society doesn't fully accept homosexuality or even bisexuality, being anything other than straight does indeed make life harder at least for me. It doesn't mean that being gay will limit my potential happiness but it's made the path have many obstacles.

 

Absolutely not!

 

Being gay is not the same thing as having a "handicap" or disability... it doesn't intrinsically hinder you in any way. While I don't know the history I wonder if this is part of why homosexuality (once considered a mental illness) was removed from the DSM. It's different but it in itself doesn't cause distress the way say depression does. What causes the distress and hinders you is the society we live in. And while that can be rough, we are making a lot of strides in the right direction and gay people have more and more rights now.

 

This is exactly what I was thinking.

 

Being gay is only a handicap in societies where being gay is treated as one.
Like when it presents actual disadvantages when trying to get a job, rent an appartment etc.
Otherwise it's no better or worse than being straight.

 

In our current society, it sucks to be gay. We can't do certain things whether in a relationship or not. Sometimes we can't even get a relationship. From what I know about handicaps, its when you are unable to do certain things. So I guess, technically, homosexuality can be considered a handicap...but it doesn't need to be. In a safe environment, we can be free to be ourselves. I feel like the world is going in that direction...

 

i say no, being gay is not a handicap only in the sense that it does not stop people from living their lives it just makes it more difficult, like my blindness its only a handicap if i let it become one

 

Like everything else, I think being gay has its pros and cons. Look at the brightside. We're not labeled as bigoted, being the cause of unwanted pregnancies, and being "filthy pigs", are we?

 

For me it's a huge loss that I can't have relationships with men in the same way as before these attractions began. I feel like I'm bi and admittedly, I'm still in denial about it, but I don't feel like I can be myself with these gay attractions. So it feels like an enormous downfall to me.

 

It's not being gay that's a downfall, or handicap. It's the reactions of other people that cause us problems, and also our own inner conflicts that make us unhappy.

 

Baise pas, if you'll pardon my french
And now I'll say it in some other languages with the help of google translate:
Mierda no, spanish
באַרען קיין, yiddish
اللعنة لا, Arabic
and finally in english, Fuck no.

 

Nope. I've never found being gay to be any kind of handicap at all.

I will do as I will do and if 'society' doesn't like it, too damn bad.

I've never found being gay and out any kind of interference in my life or relationships, personal or professional.

Todd

 

Before I came out, if I heard someone commenting on someone else - saying something like "he looks gay", i would say "don't be mean".
In hindsight though, they weren't being mean at all - they were just stating an interesting fact.
So in most of the examples I can think of, it was my perception/assumption rather than reality that made being gay a "negative" thing.

Hope that makes sense.

Peace! (*hug*)