If someone asks you if you have a bf/gf, so you use it as a coming out opportunity?

Re: If someone asks you if you have a bf/gf, so you use it as a coming out opportunit

Yes, I do. It's always somewhat satisfying challenging heteronormative questions, haha.

 

Re: If someone asks you if you have a bf/gf, so you use it as a coming out opportunit

Not really I just say I'm not seeing anyone .

 

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That could be an oppertunity. That reminds me of a scene from the new sherlock on bbc where they're out to eat and john asks if sherlock has a girlfriend and when he says no, asks if he has a boyfriend. Such a lovely scenecx

 

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Typically I just answer honestly. This happened to me last night (see "That Awkward Moment When...) and I tried to laugh it off as a joke without having to say, "I don't have a boyfriend but I wouldn't mind one."

 

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Not really, no. I did it twice (I think), but usually I just say I'm single. *shrug*

Lots of love,
Andy

 

Re: If someone asks you if you have a bf/gf, so you use it as a coming out opportunit

Not yet, but I was thinking of doing that. It's a good way to come out without making a big deal out of it.

 

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Meh, just have fun with it. The people that ask are usually unnecessarily prying I find.

"Do you have a girlfriend?"
"Yes, but she died in a freak accident involving a stampede of rhinoceroses..." *looks away wistfully* "...I don't wish to talk about it any more".

 

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I have realized that that kind of thing work wonders for me.. I am completely out and do not care much what people think about it. The important people already know it.

So, since that kind of conversation comes u very often is an easy way to let people know in a non forced context. Besides people don't make a bit deal of it if you don't.A t least in my experience...

I think if you are out is both healthier and more practical to let the people around you know.

 

Re: If someone asks you if you have a bf/gf, so you use it as a coming out opportunit

Not at work as I am new there and I don't know what to expect yet. I've never been asked yet though. I'm not comfortable enough to say it at work yet.

 

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I think it always depends on the person that asks.
When I trust this person I would come out...maybe.

 

Re: If someone asks you if you have a bf/gf, so you use it as a coming out opportunit

I must ping gaydar every so often, because I've been asked that question as well (though in reverse, of course). I also enjoyed that scene

I'm not really out, but once all the people who matter to me know I don't think it's something I plan to hide. However, it is still my business. So it'd probably depend on who was asking, and why, as to whether I elaborated or simply said "no."

 

Re: If someone asks you if you have a bf/gf, so you use it as a coming out opportunit

Depends who is asking. I often say something like "No, and I don't want a man." I think the implication usually goes over people's heads, but it amuses me anyway.

 

Re: If someone asks you if you have a bf/gf, so you use it as a coming out opportunit

I would use it as a coming out opportunity, saying that I wouldn't be sure what gender my partner will end up being, but I have nobody now. That being said, I'm so visibly not straight that almost nobody asks me this question.

 

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Usually! I'm slowly coming out to everybody, so if someone (outside of my family) asks I usually tell them about my girlfriend. I also throw the phrase "my girlfriend" into conversation as much as possible. It's such a natural and causal way to come out!

 

Re: If someone asks you if you have a bf/gf, so you use it as a coming out opportunit

Oh yessss! I always say "I'm dating someone. He and I have been together for 2 years" and that gives them a chance to scratch their heads in confusion and ask :lol:.

 

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This is how I came out to my best friends, I came back home from college and they asked if I met any cool guys and I was like UH UH UHHHH well i am i, i am hella gay and they asked if i met any cool girls then <:


if i dont think they would react that well i just say no.... or the one time i was pushed and said i was asexual :v oh wrll

 

Re: If someone asks you if you have a bf/gf, so you use it as a coming out opportunit

If you can trust the person, it sounds like an excellent way to broach the subject!

 

Re: If someone asks you if you have a bf/gf, so you use it as a coming out opportunit

I've done something kind of like this once or twice.

Guy at school: "So have you tried to get off with [very good-looking female foreign exchange student yet]?"
Me: Nope
Guy at school: "Why not?"
Me: "She's fourteen and I'm gay"
Guy at school: "What, but, no you're not... (wanders off, confused)"