Shyness

yea me too also like, i could be sitting right there but im invisible to people because i dont talk

 

I have no advice to offer as im in the same boat and yes, I sometimes feel overlooked.

 

Im invisible.

 

Yeah I usually get ignored. People only talk to me out of pity, which is really annoying :dry:

 

Really!?:eek: thats very messed up, im sorry

 

Yep, pretty much. On most days I feel like no one really cares about me .

 

I get the same thing. My input on anything is usually ignored in favor of the input of outgoing people.

 

Damn that really sucks, oh i know we should form a group and take over the world, INTROVERTS UNITE :badgrin:

 

yes and it is because we dont openly show that we care abou lt others so they do the same or dont at all. It is not an admirable trait imo and I am trying to work it out of my system to become more confident instead.

 

oh jfc don't get me started... i'm not shy but i'm introverted so i'm just quiet... anyone else hear "you should talk more!!!" a lot and then when you actually try to tell a story there's always someone who interrupts you?!?!

 

Being shy is not the same as being quiet though... you'll find a lot of people who don't have any desire to talk to people but are very confident. so work on your confidence rather than quietness

 

Yeah I've been trying to overcome it too and work on self-confidence

 

The thing with being shy is whos going to pay attention to you if your essentially hiding anyway...you don't mean to (and i'm not picking or anything) but it works both ways.

If your a non shy person engaging with a shy person is not worth the effort bcos normally you get nothing back

 

I'm extremely shy, myself, but I've learned that if you want others to connect with you you have to force yourself to get out there. While I'm not an extreme success here, I have managed to make a close circle of friends and am learning how to interact a little more easily with acquaintances and "strangers." It's fine to be introverted, but if you DO want others to pay you attention you have to push yourself a little. It's hard but it gets easier with time and practice.

 

I was extremely shy for a long time, but as my confidence has increased I've gotten better at one-on-one conversation!

My only issue now is trying to speak in groups. I generally just sit there and watch the conversation go back and forth like I'm watching a tennis match. It's very overwhelming and frustrating for me, and it bothers me a lot that I just don't know how to talk when I'm with a large group!! I'm working on that though.

You just have to try and push yourself. Accept that there will be times where you stutter or say something dumb. It's all part of learning to be more confident! Some people are born people-people, but some of us have to teach ourselves these skills. It's just about practice, it will become better with time

 

The only time people talk to me in school is to make fun of me I get anxiety so I don't have Many friends. At home my fake parents try to not overlook me but I just kinda always just blend into the background. Not to mention they don't know I know they aren't my real parents. It hurt still hurts they didn't tell me

 

I don't know if it's my shyness or what, but I really do tend to be invisible... often when I say things, people literally don't hear them, even if I wasn't speaking softly. And a couple of people have told me I could be the best ninja in our class because I'm apparently so good at sneaking up behind people, even though I'm not making any effort to hide when I do.

 

Sometimes I prefer this way, less drama, less stress in life. but it's just my opinion.