Nervous/shy around cute guys

Yes, it happened to me today. I knew he was gay because he was inside the LGBT center and flirting with some of the guys at the computer stations, but he was in his young 20's or just older than 18. He was attractive, but I didn't want to feel like that creepy guy. Sigh.

 

I'm really only shy and reserved when my Mom is around but when I'm on my own I'm pretty much outgoing to an extent. Although I do have a bit of a "business first" attitude most of the time, treat what I came there for like a mission so I don't spend too much time eying anyone unless I'm waiting or killing time, then I'm pretty good at hiding my emotions unless they make eye contact for more than a few seconds then it's off to blushville.

 

Yeah, I get that way... Last summer I had to interview someone during my internship, and I don't know why, but I just expected him to look not so attractive...and I was wrong. He was young and fucking sexy. And the way the interview was set up, I basically had to interview him the second I saw him. Luckily the interview was very laid back and casual, but still, it made things interesting.

But anyways, as for what I do when I get like that...really, I just do the best I can to ignore the fact that I'm attracted to the guy and focus on the task at hand.

 

You sound exactly like me. I'd be in class looking outside the door to make sure no one's looking, around the classroom and quickly take a glance. Or in public, use my phone, look around a couple of directions (one of them being at a cute dude) and look back.

Almost nothing worse than getting caught checking out another dude.
I usually feel my face heat up and blush talking to cute men. :bang:

Only reason I'd be awkward around them is because I'm awkward around most guys. Most of my friends are girls so I only know how to properly be myself around a girl.

 

yea i do, not a lot of em notice it though.

 

*strictly tongue-in-cheek*

As an official spokesperson for Cute Guys International, I urge you all to not be afraid of approaching us...we could be attracted to you but are probably just as awkward and afraid to make the first move as you are!

 

Great segue to what comes next (DO take the time to read this excellent resource!):

http://emptyclosets.com/forum/famil...king-relationship-simpler-than-you-think.html

I especially like the question: "Do you date guys?" It is direct, yet at the same time does not threaten the guy's identity.

 

Hey you're a cutie why would you be nervous approaching other cute guys. Why wouldn't cute guys want you, you're fabulous. Here a hug for a cutie like you (*hug*).

I have no idea how to make a first move with talking too a cute guy but I think a simple hello make a good start.

 

I get this way too, the more good-looking they are the more nervous and awkward I get :lol:

 

Yeah it sucks doesn't it! The worst thing is I send out really bad signals if a cute guy even looks at me or makes a move LOL. Apparently I send signals that turn people off according to my friend. I think it's a mixture of nerves and surprise at attention.

I hope in time we'll all become more confident as guys we might think are cute might be goin through the same thing haha.

 

I hate this feeling, I can either be super confident and I try and just make long eye contact and smirk at them. Alternatively I will try and look away constantly but I try and make sure I put one some smouldering deep thinking look incase they look over hahaha




this is pathetic, I can't believe I told people I do this haha.

 

LMAOBALLZZZ that's hilarious!

Either of those things work yet?

I never know what to do after someone responds with a smile...I feel like sipping the drink and hiding behind the glass cus its embarassing!

 

The look just makes me look like I am crazy eye staring at people ahahaha, and the clear gay face modelling makes me look ridiculous. I obviously don't get much back but it's all I have so I am working with what I have haha.

If they look back and smile I assume they maybe feel like I'm a little special and just smile back, I then play it hard to get and don't look back haha. Chicken out.

 

Yeah all we can do is try our best with what we have!!!!!! Maybe you should combine the strategies? :roflmao:

Yeah then its like who is gonna make the first move...and it takes a lot to get up or to walk that distance. Especially then to find they might've been smiling at someone behind you all along! :eek:

 

hahaha someone behind you, that would be bloody awful haha. Sometimes I do a little like shuffle, as if I am going to get up and make a move over just to see if they take a little move toward me?! see what I mean haha?

 

No, but I do get nervous around handsome guys, especially if they have a youthful beard.

 

omg yeahhh!! Ideally people would meet you in the middle right? (I mean that should be the hakunamatata philosophy of life!!!). Though sometimes doing awkward shuffles might make people think you have bad constipation . I've tried like walking but then chicken out half way and diverted to the safety of the bar (or toilet...although its not always all that safe lmao!)