Are you open with your same-sex relationship, or do you have to "sneak" around.

I don't have one yet, but when I do have a partner I'll be strategic. I'll probably post photo of us on facebook, but won't say "this is my boyfriend." I'll probably hold hands after awhile as well. I don't know this is me saying this now, but I'm not sure how I'll change down the road.

 

N/A, I've never been in a relationship. Of course, if I was, I wouldn't hide it in public, as long as there's a gun in my purse.

I've heard too many horror stories of lesbians being raped and murdered on the street. Better safe than sorry.

 

I don't have a boyfriend currently, but if I did it would probably depend on who was around(I wouldn't be openly gay in view of the school's rugby team, for instance). If we didn't feel safe, we'd rather not hold hands or show too much affection. But if we were alone, among friends or just in a "safe" situation(I'd like to think it's safe in the general public places, like a park or mall), yeah I'd be open about it.

 

I cannot be on the down low so to speak. I am very obviously queer. So there is no "in the closet" for me anymore. You can pretty much always tell.

So at that point, why would I be in the closet with my partner? Everyone already knows I'm queer af. Even when people couldn't tell about me personally, my partner and I were open. We get weird looks from older people mostly and we have been screamed at before (that was scary) but for the most part if anyone notices us they don't even bother showing it.

Plus, while we live in a fairly socially conservative area (read: older, white, straight people with money) we're moving to a bigger city in a month where most of the people are more socially liberal (read: poor, hipster, college students).

 

I have to sneak around and I really hate it -_-.

 

With my previous boyfriend, we had to "sneak" around because I wasn't out to many people at that time and chose to stay in to select people for strategic reasons or didn't want people to know I was in a same-sex relationship. The sneaky relationship was unbearable so I would be open with a same-sex relationship in the future.

 

I certainly had to sneak around when i was in a relationship. He was out and happy.

 

I think I'd be this way too. I've never been in a relationship though, so I can't speak from experience.

 

I've never been in a relationship, but when I am I am not going to hide it unless my partner has a legitimate reason to want to. ^^ I am done with hiding from who I am now.

 

Yeah, I'm in a same-sex relationship and yeah, that was one thing I wanted- was to not be in the closet. Took me a while to finally introduce my boyfriend to my family but no, now we're really open. Never going to forget just being downtown with my boyfriend and holding hands- openly- and just being out and proud with it.

 

Nope, even though I'm in a long distance online relationship, I still am single to my parents. And I'm planning to keep it that way unless it gets serious and I meet her in real life.

 

I'm single, but if I weren't, it would not be a secret.

 

Given where we live, PDA just out and around isn't really an option for my partner and me (unless I want to take up hiding bodies as a new hobby). And we usually have places to be and things to do and dragging along holding hands or the like is quite a time waster. As such we aren't in the habit of it even in places/situations where we could.

However, beyond that we are out to pretty much everyone. Both our families, all our co-workers, the neighbors we talk to, etc.

Todd

 

We're completely open--sometimes I feel like we have one life between us, I don't even know who I would pretend to be if I had to keep us a secret from anyone.

 

I'm open about mine at least to the people I'm out too. Most of them are pretty supportive. It's an LDR so some people have their doubts and don't really know how we make it work

 

Well, right now I don't have a full-on relationship with the same sex. But I think I did, I'd keep it on the down-low mainly because of my grandmother. My grandmother is religious and homophobic, and I'd rather her not know because I'd like to keep a good relationship with her. So for that reason, I might have it open to some people, but definitely not all... and I think if we were married and living together, I'd tell other people we were 'roommates" or at least my grandmother.

 

I've never been in a relationship, but if i ever am, yeah I would deff have to sneak-around/hide it

 

Yeah, I wouldn't hide it. I'd be proud of the relationship I have, but I wouldn't be to pushy either. At least with my past opposite sex relationships, I didn't do any pda and I didn't have the need to publicly display that we were together.

I'd do the same here, but it's also because I'm a pretty reserved person and don't feel the need for people to know everything about me, not even my best friends. So facebook photos, introducing him in events to my family or other people, and eventually if our relationship is strong down the line - holding hands in public.