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Do you fly under the gaydar?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by kosygin, Aug 1, 2014.

  1. kosygin

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    When I started to come out it seems that no one even suspected that I was bisexual.
    So I wondering: do you set off people's gaydar, or do you go incognito?
     
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    Yes, I fly under the gaydar. People always assume I'm straight,
     
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    For the most part nobody thinks I'm gay.

    There was this one guy that was basically obsessed with the thought of me being gay. He later came out as bi though, so I guess if you know what to look for I'm pretty obvious.
     
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    Yes, I always fly under the gaydar/bidar.
     
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    I don't think it's easy to tell, no. I sort of wish it was then maybe people would approach me.
     
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    I fly under the gaydar. Get told that they wouldn't have guessed. I have to actually try to appear on the gaydar.
     
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    I'm like you Randy. I'm so inconspicuous gay people don't even know I exist.
     
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    50/50. Some people were very much surprised when I came out, while others told me they'd expected it for years and were waiting for me to come out.
     
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    Yep! People are really shocked to find out that I am in fact gay :lol:.
     
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    Despite my barrel rolls, everyone just thinks I'm being me. I could fly right into their face, and they'd still be like:

    "Oh, that's just ____, they're like that."

    So, in a way, I do. But in a way, I don't. Just depends on what the one stationing the radar, wants to see and think.
     
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    nobody thinks im bisexual i act pretty straight.
     
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    I don't think I do anymore. I feel like I dress like a stereotypical lesbian, but I also have long hair and wear makeup sometimes which probably confuses people. When people talk to me they'll realize I'm hella boyish and might suspect something.
     
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    since i have a boyfriend nobody ever guesses im actualy bi. my boyfriend actually forgets sometimes.
     
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    I seem to be one of those people where people don't suspect I'm gay but when they find out they can't believe they didn't realize before because it's really obvious :icon_bigg
     
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    Most people do, despite the fact that everyone tells me I'm super masculine. There's a reason, I'm too open about gay rights, open minded in just about anything and I have this gayish smile - I don't know it's a smile that people love and lights up the room, but somehow it ticks off the gaydar. Other than that if I'm not smiling, people don't suspect it and for good reason: I've got a super deep voice, lack stereotypical mannerisms and have a pretty rough personality... you wouldn't suspect it.

    Since I've accepted my sexuality, this doesn't bother me now, in fact I'm smiling now more than I ever so it ticks off fast!
     
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    I'm not sure. I don't have any of those stereotypical signs, that I know of, anyway. But I don't act like a stereotypical straight guy, either. I suppose I might give off a bit of a queer vibe, rather than a gay one. I suspect that if people try to figure out my sexuality, they end up thinking I'm bisexual, which isn't a common idea since most people dismiss it as a sexuality.
     
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    Yeah , i fly under the gay radar every one always thinks I'm straight.:dry:
    And I don't have to try, they just think I'm straight
     
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    People don't tend to think I'm gay, but then again I bet there are moments when I can show my gay prowess. If I like the look of a guy I am pretty dorky about it and ballsy enough to tell anyone close by, except of course the actual person effected by the attraction.
     
  19. Pereirar

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    Nope. I still have friends who don't believe me...
     
  20. patric

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    Certainly flying under the radar here. Have no idea if anyone suspects.