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Do your family members know that you're gay?

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  1. kosygin

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    Both of my parents are deceased, so I never got the chance to come out to them. I think that my sister suspects that I'm gay -- So I think that I will be formally coming out to her soon.
    My brother is an uptight fuddydud, so I doubt that I'll ever be coming out to him.
    So how open are you about your sexuality with your family?
     
  2. laurenc

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    none of my family knows about me being trans or bi ,most if not all of my family would disown me if I were to come out .
     
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    All of them--even extended family. My people are Mormon, largely from Utah and Idaho--no issues whatsoever. Who would have thunk?
     
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    It would be a shame if they disowned you, laurenc -- those qualities make you special.
     
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    No. They'll probably be the last to know. I probably wouldn't get disowned, but it would definitely make things complicated.
     
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    Only my mom and brother :/.
     
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    I haven't come out to my family yet and not sure when/if I ever will.
    I have a few friends that are gay and have always been since my family have know them and they like to make jokes about them. It's very hurtful but until I am sure and happy within myself I think it's the right thing to do ?
     
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    Mom knows and fully accepts me.

    I don't want my stepfather to know, he hit on me about three years ago and I really don't want him to find out I'm gay until I have a boyfriend.

    My other family doesn't matter to me at all, and at least from my moms side of the aisle they are fundamentalist Christians so I wouldn't tell them because their reaction will be that of absolute hate. They already believe that I might be, I mean they've seen me grow, but they won't admit that's something that's natural and goes against their biblical teachings.
     
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    That's some sh*t Massive. Hope you can soon get out on your own. My own father tried to hit on me once when he was drunk. I was in a gay relationship at the time -- but that can be a heavy load to bear.
     
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    mother, father, and sister, no extended family not sure if i will come out to them, i just feel its unnecessary for them to know
     
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    Mother, father, and younger brother. The other 2 brothers and sister do not know though. My younger brother kept quiet to my parents til I came out to them. My mom denied it and was like: "If you need any money from me...don't bother." Months later, she was happy to give me money when I asked for it for school. She called me disgusting during our confrontation ... that hurt the most.
     
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    I will soon, it's a bit frustrating because to this day I can tell that he tries desperately to get my attention and just... ah! It has been horrible for me, but I've decided that if I get angry it'll only be worse. I mainly ignore it, but college has made things bearable for me because I'm not at my house most of the time, and weekends I might be on the dancefloor.
     
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    i have only told my mom but it is hard to believe that anyone else doesn't know at this point, like COME ON IT IS SO OBVIOUS
     
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    No, but I plan on telling my immediate family soon. As for my extended family...I don't know when/if I'll tell them.
     
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    Nope none of them know
     
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    No way does my strict Pentecostal family know about my sexuality... or the fact that I drink... There are a lot of things I feel like it is best just to keep from my family. My Mamaw would be literally heartbroken. It's easy to try to change other people's narrow minded opinions, but when it comes to family... whew that's just another story.
     
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    You'll be OK Massive. Find someone in your life (a relationship) who will make you feel good about yourself -- that's what's important.
     
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    Everyone in my family knows, except for my dad's side of the family. I just don't feel there's a need to tell them right now. I'm pretty sure they suspect it since they used to ask me about boyfriends and I would say I didn't have one. And there's a few other incidents that happen that just make me think they know
     
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    oh man I wish... I don't even think I've come out to MYSELF yet, hah! I did come out rather informally to a few friends during free period sometime last year. I think it went like this:
    Them: Truth or dare?
    Me: Truth.
    Them: are you a lesbian?
    Me: ...
    Them: ...
    Me: ... Sort of?
    Them: ... Oh.
     
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    Well, it's kind of complicated.

    I actually came out to my family as gay at the age of 11. But since then, I went on to marry a man. I think they might have some idea I'm bisexual, but I haven't fully discussed with them. I've considered it though, to give myself some peace of mind and so I'm not hiding anything from them.