anyone else dislike the term gold star lesbian?

Seems needlessly divisive. Solidarity would be better than any form of elitism, inside of any group of people. My two cents. Who benefits from it?

 

I've never heard that expression before, what does it mean?

 

Basically, a woman-loving woman that hasn't had sex with a man. However, it has been argued if this means just intercourse, or if it can include oral. But, yes, that's the general definition.

 

Essentially, having successfully dodged the peenz0r. Means you're like way hardcore lesbian or something, high fives all around. Shrug. Some guys I've met seemed proud of not having touched women. Whatever dude.

 

I'm not really bothered either way, but it amuses me a bit that something that would make me a bit of a pariah or a weirdo in the straight world gives me some imagined status in the gay one. :lol:

If I really think about it, though, it seems like it discriminates against lesbians who HAVE had sex with men, and that's not exactly cool.

 

I mean, it sets up a stupid ranking system that just divides people in the community. So, no, I don't like it.

 

I think it's bullshit if people are using it to promote some lesbians being "better" than others.

If it's merely being used to denote that you haven't been with men, then whatever. The term itself "gold star" kinda makes it sound like it's elitist garbage, but I could be taking that out of context. I don't actually know anyone who regularly uses this term anyway.

 

Is it just me or.... where do people get these absurd labeling ideas.... or just the names really...

 

My thoughts exactly.

It seems like people who would regularly call themselves "gold star" lesbians are trying to prove that they are better or more of a lesbian than someone who has been with a man before.

We're all ladies who love ladies. Can't that be good enough? Lol.

 

My thoughts exactly. Simply causing a rift between a group of people when it's not necessary at all.

 

It's arrogant and elitist.

 

Amen!

 

I dont know anyone who parades around her gold star status like it's better than non-gold star status, although I have heard that this is the case in some circles.

 

I don't like it. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who has had sex before (except in a 1 in a million situation), but lesbian sex is sex, so that also excludes women who have slept with other women. I personally view sex as something not to be taken lightly, and I want to be in a relationship with someone who has the same viewpoint.

Also, I feel I should point out that lesbians who have dated men are also considered non-gold star, even if the relationship was never intimate or sexual. That being said, I do not care whether or not she's dated men, and long as she's never gotten extremely serious or sexual with anyone.

 

Unnecessary.