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How do you deal with internalized homophobia/biphobia?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by QueerTransEnby, Aug 10, 2014.

  1. QueerTransEnby

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    I walked into a gay bookstore yesterday, and those feelings of guilt him me once again. I thought it was over with because I hang out at the LGBT center in a nearby city all the time and am comfortable with most everyone because I am familiar with them.

    But anyways, I am totally cool with checking guys out discreetly in public, but I felt embarrassed as I looked at the nude gay greeting cards. It was cool to see the pride trinkets, but I was again hit with shame looking at the gay underwear and the dildos there. There were a few people in there including the store owner, but I just kept my head down. Ironically, I was going for a pride wristband.

    I guess it was the way I was raised. I was raised to be a prude in public, yet I watch gay porn all the time in private now and in the past. My men's group also passes around some nude pics of guys, and I'm cool with now even though I wasn't upon first meeting them.

    Anyone go through this?
     
  2. Hexagon

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    Really, I think you just have to live it out. You'll become more familiar with things, and eventually you'll realise it's no longer there.
     
  3. asdfghjk

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    exposure, talking to gay friends, therapy, is how i have managed >: