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How fat is too fat for you?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by MDNA, Aug 11, 2014.

  1. MDNA

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    ...and would you date a fat guy?
     
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    I mean, I'm not naturally attracted to overweight guys. However the reason why I wouldn't date them would be lack of interests between us, not due to their weight. That's just mean and cruel.
     
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    If we click then I wouldn't complain. I guess when you get to the point of weight causing health problems is where I would start to consider things
     
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    Yeah i can understand.
    But i also realize that some sexual attraction would be required?
     
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    If I complained that would make me a hypocrite. I obsess about my appearance enough without my partner helping.
     
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    Yeah, that's true. I guess if they clearly weren't taking care of themselves and did nothing, then I'd have a bone to pick with them, I suppose. But I just don't think that sexual attraction is the only thing that the guy and I would need in order to click.
     
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    I'm sorry but i dont get it. You say you'd be a hypocrite if you complained but i dont get the reason :|

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    Yeah that's true too.
    A crappy personality and behavior can be a deal breaker too.
     
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    You're sweet(*hug*) but according to the NHS I am in the overweight category on a BMI chart plus I'm bigger than any of my pictures show.
     
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    Let's say I marry a guy who is fit and really attractive in my eyes. Then his metabolism catches up and he's gained 40-50 lbs to where he's kinda tubby. Do I just say "sorry, I don't love you anymore?"
     
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    You're sweet too:slight_smile:
    I fall in that category too actually :| I'm trying to lose some though.
    the thing is i feel like i'm developing unrealistic standards for men :| which is actually hypocritical

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    Nope, you don't. But thats only if it is not based only on his appearance. i get it
     
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    Alrighty, time to confess (again). I have a fat fetish. And while I am dating someone in the higher numbers on the BMI scale, that's pure coincidence.

    So the question becomes, how fat is too fat?
    Well, basically, to me, "too fat" is when it's a dire health problem. When I truly start worrying about someone's immediate health, it's also an immediate turn-off for me.
     
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    Tbh I think most people are guilty of this whether it be themselves or other people.

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    I think there should be a space on the BMI scale that should be renamed Cuddly. I would be Ok with being in the Cuddly section
     
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    Ha, I'm a chubby chaser, so bigger is better for me. I love my bear BF he is gorgeous to me
     
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    Yaassss cuddly!! (!)
     
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    anything that reaches into the obese range of bmi scale
     
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    I'm a health junkie so it's not the fat appearance that deters me, it's the unhealthiness of being fat. Unfortunately, anything past a tiny bit chubby would be a turn-off.
     
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    I guess... fat enough that when you look at them the first thing you notice is how fat they are.

    But it's not like I would refuse to date someone simply because they're overweight, lol.

    I myself am actually slightly underweight, but it's not like I have a problem with fat people...
     
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    I don't know. I guess to the point where it'll hurt their health, but I don't even know what that means. I've been attracted to all kinds, so I guess it doesn't matter that much. I'm usually too busy being critical of my own body issues to actually consider what size I find attractive. For instance, I wouldn't consider my body size attractive to other people (although I know according to BMI, I'm healthy and even a little thin). However, if someone my size started chatting me up, I wouldn't think anything of it.
     
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    When the first thing i think is 'theyre fat.'

    I would probably date a fat person if they were really nice.
     
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    Too fat for me is when sexual arousal is something I can not reliably achieve in that person's presence. Would I date one? Actually, I have. Did it work out? No.

    I could date a fat guy if he were an exclusive top, but I could never penetrate a fat guy.