Unlike in a hetero relationship it's the guy who always does the proposal as far as I know. So what about two gay couples? Which one should propose first? Just curious...
Oh, you have two of these threads! I was really confused as to why my post didn't show up on your other one!
Well, it's hardly a bad thing that there are no unequal and misogynistic traditions upheld in same sex relationships. Anyway, as far as I'm concerned, marriage is best thought about at length and discussed, not sprung upon you by a partner.
Obviously you both propose at the same time. In all seriousness, not even in heterosexual couples is there only one partner who can propose, not in this day and age.
There is no should... Sometimes one partner is getting the feeling its time... There is a nice story on the internet... one partner of a lesbian couple got the rings to propose... they happen to go to a really romantic place, it was not planned that way... they talk about the subject... the partner to be proposed to says something like all its missing now are the rings... and she produces the rings and proposes.
It can be either or both at the same time. You could plan it out. Like have to different dates/events where you both propose at one.
I agree. If you've both discussed it and know you both want it then either can propose though, if there's even a need for it at that point.
I've thought bout this, along with a host of hetero traditional roles applying to a gay relationship. I suppose the real question is who plays the "man" in the relationship? The answer is different depending on the relationship. Some may have a more equal relationship, others with a more dominant half. The whole planning it out n taking turns asking wouldn't go well with me. I hate planning and love spontaneity. But you should definitely feel things out n drop hints, see where your partner is thinking the future is. To me the perfect proposal would be if my girlfriend and myself both bought a ring to propose then both ended up proposing together, but I'm a closet romantic lol. PS my aunt proposed to her bf, she got tired of waiting for him to do it. They're married with 2 kids now in highschool. So I guess sometimes even in a hetero relationship the woman has to man up n get it done lol.
It doesn't matter. Does there even have to be a proposal? Can't you just talk about it in a conversation and agree with each other? Really, I feel like that conversation should typically take place anyway before any popping of questions happen to begin with. I used to think that I would have to be the one being proposed to, but eff it! I'm super romantic, I can do it too if need be. :lol:
