A hypothetical situation

Well, I would probably react thusly:

"Oh, sorry, I thought you were gay, and I was totally affirming and cool with that. But that sets me right. Tell me more about her. What's she like? What's she into?"

So, what I have done here is--assuming he's trying to hide in the closet by telling me about a fake heterosexual crush--I've told him the game is up. But, in addition to telling him the game is up, I have told him that I support him 100% of the way. What does this mean? Well, if he's straight, then we can probably laugh it off and move on. If he's gay or bisexual, hopefully I have told him unequivocally that I am safe to come out to right then and there.

 

He might just be bi, really.

Or just loves to fool around with everyone, shocking people, and isn't really gay or bi at all.
I'd just tell him what I think of the girl, and ask him how that crush happened.

And remember: How flamboyant a person is when they're unbound does not tell you that he can't be faithful in a relationship.

 

Technically flamboyancy isn't a uniquely gay attribute.
I've noticed it a fair bit in guys who are under 25ish these days.
Most of us get the opposite i.e. gets annoying when people just "assume" we're straight. It might be the same for him.

Or maybe he's gay, but questioning his sexuality (instead of the typical "straight" and questioning).

I guess just take it at face value.
Treat it the same as if someone you thought was straight wanted to talk to you about a same-sex crush.

 

I would talk to him about that girl. Simple as that. If he says or implies that he's straight, then that's what he is until I'm otherwise informed.

 

I would think he was bi

 

I feel like it's really not that different from finding out a guy that you wholeheartedly believed to be straight was actually gay. They're both a bit of a surprise, but nothing to really wonder about. Really, no matter how absolutely a person matches the stereotypes, you can never really know what they're sexuality is until they tell you. Point blank. If he likes boys, he likes boys. If he likes girls, he likes girls. That's the only thing you can ever truly go by.

 

cool

 

I'd talk to him about the girl. Still, I probably wouldn't get along very well with a flamboyant person.

 

yeah

 

I'd think he was in denial about his sexuality.

That might not be the case of course, but that would be my first thought.

 

This! I don't know why people tend to assign someone's sexuality on the way they act. Just like gay guys, straight men can be on opposite sides of the masculinity/feminity spectrum as well.

 

Maybe he was bi, that's what I'm getting from it.

 

I'd just go with it. For all I know, he could be a Duckie Dale and/or Eddie Izzard and/or reverse-Janis Ian type (reverse because he's a guy who comes off as gay, rather than a girl who comes off as lesbian).

 

Agree with every word of this.

 

That happened once. I was surprised, but it wasn't a big deal. Anyway, I'm glad such people exist. We shouldn't judge people's sexuality on their gender expression, but we almost always do.

 

I probably wouldn't bat an eye and just beckon him closer,
"So tell me more about this girl. Did she have a smoking hot...personality?"

 

I'd be like meh.

 

I wish I could say I would give him love advice, but I think I would end up making things worse with bad advice.