Did you ever get "the talk?"

Oh the whole "hands out the window" thing? Ya... I'm not sure how to feel about that...

 

No, because I grew up white in a rather crime-free middle-class neighborhood. If I had kids, though, you can be sure they would get this talk.

Lex

 

thought this was sex


anyway no i guess my dad assumed who would shoot a timid ass fat white girl, little does he know i move awkwardly without thinking and police seem to be on a roll with shooting people for bad reasons

 

I would among other things explain how the legal system actually works as opposed to the way it should work. I would also tell my adopted kid (seriously doubt I would have one of my own by choice) that the only thing that matters is whether others are harmed because that is the only thing besides your own happiness that matters.

 

Yes but it covered cops , jobs and everything else about being a black person .:dry:

 

No, I grew up around cops as my Dad was the go-to mechanic for the local police department to fix the squad cars so I guess there was never any need for a talk about it.

 

I've been spending too much time on EC. When I heard "the talk" my thought of topic was quite a bit different than dealing with police. We'll leave it at that. :lol:

That said, I don't recall any discussion like this when I was growing up. But...it probably wasn't necessary given where and when I grew up. Plus I'm not even sure my parents would have even thought of it, given their background.

Given how much mystery literature I'd read, however, by the time I was a teenager, I was well aware of certain things. Such as refusing to answer questions after arrest without a lawyer present. This was something Perry Mason's clients never seemed to manage doing, and which caused him any number of problems.

My chances of having kids is less than the chances of winning the Washington State Lottery 52 weeks in a row. That said, I'd probably have some discussion on this matter.

 

Never had to have a chat like that at all.. I think if you don't have a criminal record and haven't done anything wrong, there is no need to fear the police.. They are here to protect us from criminals.. It is only people who have done the wrong thing who are either afraid of them or treat them badly.

 

My mom gave me "the talk" when I was like 10-11 years old. I've been a good lil' boy ever since . My dad, surprisingly, has never given me "the talk" at all.

 

I don't think I've ever had the talk, no.

 

Cops don't just shoot black people.

Missouri has a significantly high black population.

Here in Canada, cops shoot you regardless of race. Earlier this year; I think, some unarmed kid with mental health problems was shoot several times by a police officer that has since been charged with murder, he was white.

Our police also taze foreigners to death at the airport.

 

Yeah...

... in the back of a police car, when I was a little juvenile punk.

Not exactly my finest moment.

 

Kind of. It has been impressed on me that I should avoid being caught. I've never trusted the cops, a mixture of personal experience, history, anarchism, and the fact that cops infiltrated an organisation of which I am a member. One of them even married and had kids with a member of it.

 

I've had the talk, even as someone white. But only the first half of it, the "do what the cop says, let him arrest you, don't talk back, etc." I never got the "memorize his badge number and call me when you get to the precinct" or the hands part. I don't remember where I got this from. Could have been school, could have been from Mom (or Dad). Could have been from some TV show. I honestly don't remember.

 

From my driver's ed teacher,

"Address him as sir. Not asshole, not pig, not douchebag. Sir."

My dad once asked me this and I said the exact same thing as my grandfather, a lawyer and judge would have said:

"You shut your mouth and ask for a lawyer."

A good thing for everyone to watch, especially those of us who are of visible minorities, is Flex Your Rights' "The Ten Rules For Dealing With Police."

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kind of I went to a birthday party and his dad was a cop and he put me in the back of the cop car and handcuffed me and I reacted badly so the cop gave everybody the talk

 

that sounds like the worst birthday party ever

 

No. No "talks" whatsoever. Except for some minor typical teenage stuff that we never got caught for, I stayed away from trouble and respected teachers and people in positions of authority. Despite that, and good grades on top of that, my parents seemingly were never happy and nothing was ever good enough.

 

Sort of, because my father and I were discussing Ferguson.
He said to be polite, listen, not to put my hands in my pockets, and ask for a lawyer (if I remember correctly).