GIRLS!!! Is it wrong for us to make the first move?

I'm not a girl, but I think it doesn't matter who makes the first move.
Things like the guy making the first move are archaic traditions which can negatively impact a lot of people.
Good on you for telling him

 

Nice going! I think it was awesome and brave of you.

Of course girls can make the first move on guys. Why not? I wouldn't ever do it because I'm afraid of being rejected haha.

 

If you want to, do so. You might find some folks are turned off, because they want to be the one to make the first move, but I think it is silly. I'd be tickled, if somebody made the first move, because it shows assertiveness and a fuck-the-world attitude.

If the relationship works out, why the hell does it matter, who started it?

 

Congrats on that ! (*hug*)
I think you should be proud to say what you feel.

If you think you did the right thing, its allright.

Sometimes during the first stages of a getting to know each other there is a kind of pursuit with changing roles anyway... someone retracts a bit, and the other follows, taking turns, bringing both closer together (I read that somewhere, didn't make that up myself ) .

Wish you luck .

 

I don't see why it would be wrong.

 

Yes. Females subverting their submissive roles is part of what's leading to the breakdown of the moral fabric of society! Inequality and gender roles are the only things that are holding this world together!






but i mean seriously, there's nuthin wrong with any gender makin the first move. like gender roles just need to die already

 

I say if you're brave enough to admit to someone you like them then go for it. Usually I wouldn't tell someone I like them because I'd be afraid of rejection. However I'm actually the one who made the first move in the relationship I'm in now, I couldn't handle wondering what if anymore.

 

You are so awesome. Shy people need help, you know! If you like something why not say so? :eusa_clap

 

As it's very unlikely that I would make the first move, go for it.

 

I've been told it's wrong because it makes you look desperate but I don't think that's true .

 

I don't see how that makes you look anything if you continue to say how you feel.
If there would be something you're uncomfortable with, just tell.
Just be you
(*hug*)

 

I would be flattered. If I am into you, it would make a super impression forever. I am never the one to make a first move with guys or girls.

 

There's nothing wrong with it. Period.

 

Okay, you are bucking tradition which are out the window. I broke this with my current man,but I just let him know if he wanted it would be yes because I had put my foot down my throat and he had a look like he got sick. Two weeks later he pops the question! I'm 42 and he is 33, and my upbringing I read taught it was wrong because it may demasculate him. These are old customary procedure. So I was taught to wait on him to ask. I don't think it matters these days. June

 

I honestly think that things have changed in this day and age and if you don't make the first move, you might never know either way.. You might be rejected and feel humiliated but at least you will know there is no change with this person.. If you wait around, you could be waiting a very long time and never know for sure what could have happened.. I think your stepmom is a little out touch with today's realities.

 

Make the first move!!! Please. It's not at all freaking easy to read women. Sometimes I have completely misread and asked out girls, making it incredibly awkward after. Showing us you are interested or want us, that's nice. A lot of times its frustrating, like, why do I always have to do evvvvvvverything, then be the one who gets burned for it. So much rejection over the years lol. Oh well.

 

Silly misogyny - gender roles are for old folks!

 

Most people want others to make the first move (including myself) so I think that was very brave of you. Women, I've found, often want a guy to sweep them off their feet and it seems less romantic if you're the one who approaches them. People have their preferences, I suppose.